I think we sometimes forget as parents that children are extremely strongly programmed not to be alone and to remain tight to a parent figure. Candy Gourlay introduces Wild Song, her companion novel to Bone Talk, in which Luki and Samkad leave their home in the Philippines for America. You now have the opportunity to deal with it in a measured way - Human style – using facts, truth and logic, to continue calming it and addressing its fears and concerns. Your Chimp (your emotional side) and your Human (your rational side) are two separate, independent sources of thought.

If you’re having emotional, distressed thoughts, more blood flows to the limbic lobe—the Chimp area. By indulging your Chimp’s drives in small and socially appropriate ways, you can often keep those drives in check.

You can train a child’s ’inner chimp’ according to a psychiatrist who has helped top athletes get their head in the game - coming up with 10 habits parents and early years practitioners can teach children to help them control their emotions and behaviour.

We must learn to recognise who the Chimp is, what it does, and acknowledge when it is the inner Chimp who is doing the thinking. This could be read alongside an adult or read independently but should form the focus of a discussion and be part of an on-going focus on emotions and behaviour regulation. Your Chimp is your responsibility as much as your dog would be your responsibility: If your dog attacks someone, you can’t simply shrug and say, “It was the dog, what can I do?You can get control of many Chimp drives by acknowledging its drive and meeting its needs in appropriate and harmless ways. Maybe a large poster on his bedroom wall with a message or pictures of you and any other people important to him reminding him that you are always just a few steps away might help.

It is in the outer edge of the brain, known as the cortex, where thinking takes place and where we put into good use our ‘grey matter’. In Don’t Tell Me The Score, Simon Mundie talks to psychiatrist Prof Steve Peters who believes learning how to manage your “inner chimp” is the key to peace of mind, happiness and success – in sport and in life.In general, your goal is to allow your Human to drive your actions, not your Chimp, because you’re less likely to behave in positive, productive ways when your Chimp is in control.

This is an important and another groundbreaking new book from the bestselling author of The Chimp Paradox and the creator of the chimp management mind model. Helping Children to understand and manage their emotions, thinking and behaviour with 10 helpful habits.Wonder why you sometimes seem to be a different person from the one you normally are and prefer to be? Or never would do) she knows the thought of me leaving her is 'silly', but struggles to get it out of her head once it’s there. In this article, you’ll discover what the chimp paradox model is and what practical steps you can take to handle your inner Chimp. Professor Steve Peters explains neuroscience in a straightforward and intuitive way - offering up 10 simple habits that we as adults and children should have in our arsenal to deal with everyday life. The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products.