So it does not matter that feminist movement has its faults -- it helped everyone let these scripts go. But I would not recommend it to someone who isn't already familiar with/educated about the feminist movement. She discusses attitudes like "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus," their roots in patriarchy, and the unfairness of both sides of the coin: teaching women that love and nurturing are their realm and they should accept that men won't get it, and teaching men that strength and silence and dominance are their realm and showing emotion or communicating on a deeper level are emasculating. we can’t embody and give love if we are picking and choosing in which specific ways we are self loving. You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice.

kadınların okurken eğitim, kültür, birikim seviyesi çok önemli olmadan anlayabileceği kitaplar yazmaya çalışıyor ki kitaplarında yer yer kendisinin de şikayetlendiği "teoride iyiydi güzeldi, yaşarken hiç öyle olmadı, kimse feminist pratiğin günlük hayatta nasıl uygulanacağından bahsetmedi" minvalinde bahsettiği kısımları var. Chapter seven, Choosing and learning to love, notes that celibacy and being alone can help women confront themselves and examine their relationship with intimacy. Some sloppiness in exchange for a book that may be more appealing to a wider audience is not the worst thing. And I’m sure bell hooks herself would disagree with this attitude, and she did briefly mention that lesbian relationships can lack meaningful love, but I still came away with the impression of “gay people are magic!Yakın zamana kadar kim olduğumuzu ve erkekler kadar iyi olabileceğimizi anlatmaya çalışırken onların bize verdikleri kalıplara uymaya çalıştık. Pros: a wonderful, nuanced discussion on how the patriarchy really screws with both women and men when it comes to love and relationships; a sadly accurate analysis of girl-on-girl hate; an interesting history of Hooks and her experiences in the feminist movement. tabi ki annelerimizin bizi çoğunlukla sevgileriyle istismar ettiği, babalarımızın da bizi sevmeyerek istismar ettiği bir gerçektir, bunun farkındaydım. While I didn’t mind that rhetorical technique when she used it either more accurately or more sparingly in her other books, in Communion it stood out to me more in a negative way, perhaps because I also found that her points blurred together and were a little discursive within chapters at times. Most of us had found these qualities present in lifelong committed friendships, particularly romantic friendships.

A little outdated at times, and includes lots of generalizations, but one cannot doubt the genius of bell hooks and how much she paved the way for current feminist discussions of love. Many of us feel better about aging because the old scripts that told us life ends at thirty or forty, that we turn into sexless zombies who bitch bitch bitch all the time and make everyone around us miserable were thrown away.In chapter two, titled Love’s proper place, Bell Hooks explains that in teaching men how to love, they would be less contentious about female’s agency and rebel against the system that has permitted such absurdities.