Now sure how someone with a penis can enjoy harness play? Here’s a little more detail on how wearing or using a strap-on on during sex can be pleasurable even for folks who already have their own phallus.

Happy Rabbit Vibrator Strapless Strap-On...try to say that ten times fast! This is another vibrating pegging toy that fits into the wearer's vagina. It comes with a mini-rabbit at the base, which stimulates the clitoris. Basically the definition of "does it all." This strap-on set includes a harness that fits hips up to 67 inches, three O-rings for toys of different sizes, and of course, a rabbit vibrator. The vibrator features three vibration speeds and nine vibration modes in the shaft, plus three additional vibration levels in the rabbit. Yes, plz! This kit comes with an adjustable fabric harness that expands to 67 inches and a remote-control wireless vibrating dildo curved to hit juuuuust the right spot. I personally love that the harness includes a little pouch for the dildo's remote so that you don't misplace it in the heat of the moment. How smart is that? Plus, there are 15 distinct vibration modes, so you can always mix things up. Could we just call it sex? Sure, but there are lots of things we could just call sex," says Powell. "Having more terms doesn’t necessarily make it worse; I think that pegging is more stigmatized because it is about a cis straight dude. A lot of people are still really uncomfortable with men receiving penetration." Why are so many people turned on by pegging?Sex toys are considered novelty items, which means they aren’t regulated by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA). That means you have to figure out if the material of the toy is body-safe or porous. Communication throughout the practice is essential,' says Dr Mafe. 'As a couple, choose the positions that you both agree to be the most comfortable. Penetration from behind with the couple lying down or on all fours allows for a lot of control during penetration,' she adds. 'Face to face looking into each other’s eyes is very intimate and will enable you to kiss.' ❤️ Stay connected

Crystal: "Overall, incredibly positive. I was in college and my boyfriend and I had been planning it. We took our time and just had fun with it. I used a double dildo we bought specially for the occasion. I had one of the most amazing orgasms of my life from the g-spot stimulation while I was pegging him." People often associate harness play with particular gender roles, sexualities, and identities, but these associations end up being harmful rather than helpful. Specific sexual acts do not define your identity if you don’t want them to,” says Amy Boyajian, co-founder and CEO of Wild Flower, an online sex toy boutique that recently released the first-ever gender-free vibrator, Enby. Of course, the decision to try pegging with a strap on is completely up to the individuals involved, and many folks are wonderful sexual partners regardless of whether they're interested in this form of sexual exploration. But what is pegging, why is it so hot for some of us, and what supplies and knowledge are needed to try it safely? Allure spoke with Powell and a professional dominatrix to learn all you need to know. First of all, what is pegging? Lola: “Don’t stress right off the bat that they have to be the one to penetrate you. State that it’s a thing you’re into, and it’s up to them if they want to partake. Let them come around on their own curiosity!”

More than half of enjoying strap-on sex is feeling confident in the strap-on, so I recommend that folks reach a level of confidence before using it with a partner,” she says. Tom isn't alone. More and more men are waking up to the joys of being penetrated. The film Deadpool and more recently Broad City (pictured above) both had scenes in which women shagged men with strap-ons – known colloquially as 'pegging.'