At times, the author is overly wordy, and one has to slog through a quagmire of unnecessary serial phrases, redundancies, and unpolished sentences. foster more intimate relationships and fulfilling experiences, and reconnect with your values and authentic self. NATALIE LUE: Over a five-or-so-year period, which included my father’s death, I felt like I was on a road of trials where a series of challenges, both personal and professional, forced me to confront my people-pleasing habits in much deeper ways. Instead of waiting, we can say no to anymore of their shenanigans and choose love, care, trust and respect for ourselves in the process.

Die verschiedenen Arten des People Pleasings wurden auseinandergenommen und ich konnte mich ganz gut einordnen und mich wiedererkennen. The mantra that you should say yes to everything is nothing new (much like the cliche about asking for forgiveness, not permission, although that doesn’t sound so good in the post-Weinstein era). In het eerste deel, stelt Natalie Lue de vraag of je een people pleaser bent en wat dat precies inhoudt.It was quite fraught and confusing emotionally and that meek, accommodating persona is who I was in adolescence,” she says.

There were good things about it- I really liked the 2-week exercise where I needed to observe and journal every "yes" and every "no" to identify the baggage behind it. But as it turns out, our brain’s habit headquarters – the basal ganglia – don’t differentiate between helpful and unhelpful behavioral patterns.People often start justifying and over-explaining, which makes them come across as defensive and invites a drawn-out negotiation. I had no idea there were different types of people pleasers but I’m here to say I identify fully with at least three and a half of them. Ook hierin definieert ze weer per stap aan de hand van de type pleaser hoe deze stap het beste genomen kan worden.