Urban Tantra is the most pleasurable, fun, meaningful, and liberating book on sex ever! Thank you, Barbara!" --Christiane Northrup is a way of transitioning from one type of sexuality practice to another and a way of introducing sexuality into an existing career. With more than one hundred easy-to-follow techniques for expanded orgasmic states and solo and partner play (as well as more adventurous practices), this in-depth guide reveals the delicious worlds of ecstasy available to all, no matter one's gender, sexual preference, or erotic tastes. Urban Tantra expands the notions of pleasure and opens new heights of intimacy and sexual fulfillment.

As a mature practitioner and teacher of conscious touch, intimacy and erotic awakening for over 2 decades Quinky is still described as, amongst other things, ‘a most warm loving presence of erotic awakening’. This option is helpful to those who are sexually inexperienced, have disabilities, in transition, suffering from a mental or physical issue such as anxiety, sex abuse or trauma, Erectile Dysfunction (ED), Premature / Rapid Ejaculation, sexual confusion, social or religious persecution, and more. Barbara Carrellas is an author, sex educator, and theater artist. Her pioneering Urban Tantra® workshops were named best in New York City by TimeOut/New York magazine. She is also the cofounder of Erotic Awakening, a groundbreaking series of workshops that toured the United States and Australia. Barbara has been featured in several episodes of HBO’s Real Sex. She is also the author of Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure, numerous articles and essays, and an audio series, The Pleasure Principle. Barbara lives in New York City with her partner, trailblazing gender theory author Kate Bornstein. is a program of self love and self discovery that supports you in finding your unique gift, developing your distinctive talents, and following your greatest passions. It’s also an opportunity to provide people who work with sex a place to find a common language. Often Tantric practitioners speak in a new age, energy based language that keeps people who would like their services away from them because they’re put off by language. Sex therapists can be too clinical to attract some of the clients that they want to work with. Kink professionals can be a little scary, and not in a good way. So we transform language so that people get to say what they do in a way that will attract the people they really want to work with.

Now, we cook meals together. Sleepover at each other’s houses. Go to movies. He listens to and remembers everything I’ve ever said. He’s one of the kindest men I’ve ever met. He’s one of the best people in our friend group. It’s the best sex of my life. I find myself falling in love with him, as he’s been more of a supportive partner to me than men I’ve been in an actual relationship with for years. We’re now more than a year into our song and dance. I have no problem continuing as we are, but fear my feelings growing stronger will require me to speak up at some point. I’d hate to “ruin” what we have.

There’s a refrain from the marriage counseling community that basically encourages people to start the process of sex and hope their desire ramps up to meet the occasion. You can start touching yourself gently, drawing your awareness to your corporeal self. You can tease yourself. You know what works for your body, what turns you on, what stokes your flame right now.Awakening sensual eros – breath and touch-based energy awakening for couples and individuals wanting to awaken and deepen into loving sensual erotic intimacy – with self or other. Barbara Carrellas is a brilliant writer. She has a unique way of making her readers feel comfortable exploring avenues of sexuality they have longed to know about. To Barbara, being sexual is as normal and comfortable as breathing, and she would like all of us to feel this way.” — Louise Hay, author of Empowering Women and You Can Heal Your Life Intimate Sexuality and Intimate Relating are my unique systems of practical intimacy and sex coaching and education which have been developed from over a decade of working with clients. These 2 road maps give you the structure and tools to support you to awaken / transform your sex life and intimate relationships, in a way that feels true to you. We do this through a mix of coaching, education and practices:

This is probably going to sound crazy but here goes. I am 67 and I’ve been married to the same woman for 43 years. I know that before we married, she had been with about 10 other men sexually. I am only about 5.8 inches when fully erect, and for some reason that I can’t explain, I have been bothered lately wondering how many of the men that she had been with were bigger or even much bigger than me. Does a woman know the difference between say a half inch bigger or a whole inch bigger? I understand if she ran across a 7-plus-inch guy it would be noticeable. So that’s my question. Do women notice the difference when a guy is a half inch to a whole inch shorter than other partners? Please don’t ask me to move on and leave it alone. I really would like to know. For nearly twenty years, I’ve studied and explored the fields of sex and sexology, intimacy and healing and have over a decade of working with 100s of students and clients. I’ve supported deep transformations for my clients, helping them to move beyond the limits of the goal based pleasure that most of us learn, to discover what lights them up, how to feel their pleasure and sensuality, how to confidently communicate and create healthy intimate relationships. With social distancing and quarantine being a part of our new daily lives, there’s lots of talk about how important “self-love” is now, how orgasms are good for the emotional brain, and (maybe?) the immune system. That said, as someone who was single prior to all this, and who had a pretty regular and healthy masturbation routine, I’m finding now that I have to remind myself to do it, as opposed to getting the feelings like I used to. Any advice on how to keep the sexy and sexy feelings as a part of our lives in an era where every media channel is pumping death and plague into our eyes and brains would be helpful. I’m sure this could apply to those partnered as well.Note: All genders, sexual preferences and relationship configurations welcome. No nudity or explicit sexual touch is involved in any of the classes.

Barbara Carrellas is an author, educator, performer. Over the years she has developed a particular (I’m going to say – and I mean this in a positive way – peculiar) way of approaching a wide range of work in sexuality, a practice she describes in her most recent book, Urban Tantra ®.

This workshop series will focus on modern Tantric techniques and practices that can be learned in a virtual environment and practiced in (and after) times of social distancing. The series is specifically designed to provide support and pleasure as we navigate this prolonged period of uncertainty and slowly emerge from our isolation. I learned to identify which things bring comfort or playfulness, sensual pleasure or erotic arousal, and how to ask for them clearly without shame’ (Katie) Barbara Carrellas talks in Urban Tantra about making space for sexual desire, and she recommends a brief meditation. Her book has a number of different suggestions and is definitely worth a read. I do a few breaths to ground myself in my body. You might try some different techniques. Joy holds certifications in Somatica Sex and Relationship Coaching, Surrogate Partner Therapy, Hypnotherapy, Reiki, Vinyasa & Yin Yoga & Mystical Dance. If you think sexual and spiritual bliss can't be found in today's fast-paced world, you haven't experienced Urban Tantra. Celebrating the 10th anniversary of Urban Tantra, acclaimed sex educator Barbara Carrellas radically updates the ancient practice of Tantra for modern sexual explorers desiring to discover new frontiers. With a juicy mix of erotic how-to and heart-centered spiritual wisdom, this updated edition includes a brand-new introduction, up-to-date references and resources, a new take on the possibilities and responsibilities of Tantra in today’s world, plus new and cutting-edge information to reach an expanded community—added information on multi-partner play, more intersections for Tantra and BDSM, practices for asexuals and aromantics, expanded practices for trans and gender nonconforming people, and more.