I’m like a Lindsay C. Gibson fan boy. I’m amazed by her empathy, breath of knowledge, originality and skillful presentation. I thoroughly enjoyed the book. I found it interesting to read about emotional immaturity in general (Gibson presents 4 types of emotional immaturity). It allows the reader to connect the upbringing of others with the irrational ways they sometimes behave (e.g. extreme people pleasing in others, or - a connection Gibson suggests herself: why people can get into cults). Obviously, emotional immaturity in parents can be extremely distressing and damaging for their children (and the They are respectful. They respect you and your boundaries. They also respect how thoughts and feelings and want to hear about them as a way to understand you better.

An exciting idea pops into your head. Or maybe you’ve got super news that you’re anxious to share. You tell your parents and are met with dismissive disinterest. The goal should be, with any exchange, is healthy and clear communication, being able to recognize and articulate your thoughts and feelings, and feel good about the outcome. This will help build your self-confidence and self-esteem and make you feel more in control of not only your feelings, but the situation and how you handled it. If it’s a family dinner or your parents are interacting with you, you don’t have to get emotional or have angry outbursts. Often, driven parents expect their kids to value the same things they do without question. If you object, they’ll ignore, reject, or punish you. 3. Passive Parents It’s important toalso need to know how to heal from emotionally immature parentsas adult children. Here are a few ways to find healing: 1.Set boundaries with your parentsThey don’t take everything personally. They have learned not to take things personally and are not easily offended. They can laugh at themselves and be self-deprecating.

Living with an emotionally immature parent is draining, and getting through it requires self-compassion. Rejecting parents aren’t engaged in their children’s lives in meaningful ways, and they tend to be commanding, isolating, and, quite frankly, obnoxious. 13 Signs of Emotionally Immature ParentsMany adult children, even though they are not physically with their parents, are still attached to them emotionally and psychologically. This makes them engage with their parent’s behaviour, causing arguments, fights, and a never-ending cycle of toxicity. It drains your energy and also shows your parents that they still hold power over you and can still manipulate you. 3.See a therapist

Lindsay Gibson: This is the parent that to the external world they look like the most normal parent. In fact they may even look like the kind of perfect parent because they are very driven towards success.

Recovering from EIPs asks tough questions in the form of exercises. It can be difficult to get through this book because being uncomfortable and facing repressed emotions is not our strong suit. It can leave you stunned, provoked, vulnerable and more often- in a state of introspection. You embark on a journey when you read this book, if you know what exactly you're looking for. We seldom realise that a lot of how we react and respond to situations comes from our parents. It happens often that we open our mouths and our parents' words come out. If it is positive, that's good but if it is not, that can really screw you up. Change is easier when you really feel the magnitude of what your old distorted self-concept has cost you. That’s when your pain can be used for good. In her book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Dr. Gibson offers ways in which you can start to heal from being raised by this type of parent. High emotional reactivity can make children feel unsafe to express emotions. 2. Emotional unavailability If you start to get emotional, this means that your healing fantasy is being activated. You feel like unless they validate you (which they will not), you will be okay. If you are still in an emotional state, take a moment to step away, drink some water, splash some cold water on your face, - just create some distance - to help center yourself again. When people start to make changes on their end, they put expectations on the relationship and the person for it to go a certain way. Often, this is not how things play out. Ask yourself, what are you hoping to get from this exchange? Are you hoping they will change and understand you?