Hendel discusses Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) which sounded to me very similar to Internal Family Systems, with the additional triangles, in that it actively addresses the parts of our minds that were created when we were younger; such as talking to the 5-year-old you who suffered the trauma. In the Lower Point 🔻are Core Emotions: (you’re going to have to imagine an arrow pointing at the bottom point of the triangle here). This practical and clearly written self-help book written by a gifted therapist helps the reader learn the incredible importance of understanding and accepting your core emotions and the variety of ways we use defenses and other emotions (anxiety, guilt, and shame) to protect us (even though they cause us pain as well). Those were really helpful in seeing how the triangle plays out, but I really could have used a bit more time dedicated to understanding the parts of the triangle better.

Prior to reading the book I had not read Hilary's article in the NYT or anything by Diane Fosha but I was aware of the existence of AEDP, just not the details. If my mind is not clear, am I aware of that so that I do not make important decisions until I am able to access more clarity?When I read all the mediocre and bad reviews for this self-help of a novel, I don't think they understand the POINT of this book. I would recommend this book to literally everyone, especially those working to heal from past abuse or current depression. All you need to know is that I wasn't diagnosed with depression nor anxiety, but it doesn't mean that I didn't experience these at some point in my life. This takes courage because if you are rejected when being vulnerable, shame wants to kick in but courage and confidence in one’s worth can counteract that. This may include stuff like allowing yourself to feel angry instead of feeling scared, or feeling “disappointed” instead of feeling angry.

She describes clearly and compassionately the various ways we have of avoiding emotions with the layers of defenses, protective feelings, and automatic emotional reactions. Kiek teko domėtis, skaitytojų atsiliepimai apie knygą gana neblogi, tad vis tik nespjaučiau aš į ją, nes galbūt šis metodas jums pasirodys artimas ir efektyvus. In a world where emotional education is definitely not a priority, there are big and small traumas hiding behind everybody's daily behaviour which will explode in a way or another, there's no way around it. Additionally, if we own the damage we did with our actions, whether we did it on purpose or by accident, can be healing. Whatever it is, the emotion was manifesting in their body - and by naming this, the patients were able to experience their core emotion and enter a state of openheartedness.Then the title of this book just irate them because depression is a word that can't be thrown around like this. I took a screen shot of the change triangle page as a useful reference, but I not much else out of this. Many psychotherapies focus on the content of the stories that people tell about themselves, looking for insights that can be used to fix what’s wrong.

Like other reviewers, I also question the relevance of the title and the - perhaps - tacit message that depression can be overcome through introspection and accessing core emotions. With some trepidation due to the "woo-woo" nature of what I thought it was I delayed reading it for several months before cracking it open. This shame is something we are not born with (we don’t innately have an idea on when, where, or why to feel shame) but it’s something we learn from our surroundings. So much of the negative emotion felt on a daily basis rises from the same simple fear, that we aren't good enough to be loved in the way we so desperately desire. I liked how throughout the book there were a lot of hands-on experiments for the reader to try and put the theory explained in the various chapters, to use.Jacobs Hendel provides navigational tools, body and thought exercises, candid personal anecdotes, and profound insights gleaned from her patients’ remarkable breakthroughs. I'm writing some of my favorite parts here, but I'd still definitely re-read it to see the up close and personal applications of the triangle with different people. This shines a new light on our personal issues, and confirms what I knew intuitively for a while, that most of them come from repressed emotions that we haven't released yet.

The main point is you're supposed to figure out where on the triangle you are and then make your way to an open state full of calmness and clarity.My fear with any psychology / psychoanalytical book is that it will be written only for those who have a background in the field or have studied extensively. Fascinating patient stories and dynamic exercises help you connect to healing emotions, ease anxiety and depression, and discover your authentic self.