Bandler and Grinder say (on page 9): "Our job is to figure out what it is that effective therapists do intuitively or unconsciously, and to make up some rules that can be taught to someone else. The therapist is simply a sort of consultant, instruct the client on how to proceed, without ever directly discussing the content of "pattern X. Instead of creating pleasant anchors through touch when they are happy, couples usually anchor each other into unpleasant states. Ideally, you should re-read the whole book immediately after you're done with your initial reading, so you could finally completely understand the proper attitude and approach that the authors are trying to instill within you (yes, you must read it twice).

Just one of Many of Bandler's (and Grinder's) older Gems this book was a real inspiration for me when I was first learning about NLP. Steve Andreas, who studied under Abe Maslow (hierarchy-of-needs) and Fritz Perls (founder of gestalt therapy)]. You will always get answers to your questions insofar as you have the sensory apparatus to notice the responses.

The idea is that you can change the way people cope with unpleasant memories by giving them new ways to process those memories. Bandler has continued to improve and evolve the field of NLP and gone on to develop other seminars as well, Design Human Engineering®, Persuasion Engineering®, Neuro-Hypnotic Repatterning® to name a few.

The methodology here can be summarized as content-free guided meditation, with a dash of pavlovian conditioning. after which they proceed to briefly discuss the limitless potential within NLP for "generative" change. The NLP therapist attempts to "speak privately with your unconscious mind" (152) in, as always, a content-free manner. You can also detect in others, through their body language, and particularly their eyes mouvement, wheter or not they tell the truth or are constructing a story. NOTE: The following part of this review will be repeated from other NLP Reviews I post by the same author.I'm intrigued by the idea of representational systems, and I like the authors' constant reminders that "when you do something that doesn't work, do something else" (160) - even if complete flexibility detracts from the viability of NLP as a well-defined therapeutic model. Refraiming can be done by being observant of the process it takes for a person to access the information, and anchoring a certain state to a cue, that can be visual, auditory or kinesthetic. For example, I can ask a person if they have ever made a right decision in their life, right when they access that information I observe how they do it (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic), and I will know how they make a 'right decision' in their experience; I can 'anchor' that feeling by saying something, inputting an image (mental or external) or by touch, and every time I bring that anchor, this person will access the same 'feeling' of 'right decision'.

By using the Web site, you confirm that you have read, understood, and agreed to be bound by the Terms and Conditions. A few specific examples of things you can learn to accomplish are: cure phobias and other unpleasant feeling responses in less than an hour, help children and adults with “learning disabilities” (spelling and reading problems, etc. If you indulge in content, you are going to unavoidably impose part of your belief and value system on the people you communicate with.Nonetheless, Frogs Into Princes covers the foundations of NLP if you can get past its complex terminology. Perhaps what irked me most about this book, however, is the extent to which the authors describe their theory as unfalsifiable. Finally, the therapist "binds" the emotional resource to the unpleasant memory, essentially telling the client: 'next time you feel or see this (the bad thing), feel this (the resource anchor)'.

After reading it I'm very curious to discover how much I will learn over time as I process the material in my life. Note that throughout, the therapist has no idea what the "bad thing" is, nor what the "good resource" is - he or she simply gives content-agnostic process instructions.

The book arrived within the specified time frame, originally bought as an introduction to nlp which is good, cannot say nothing bad about it but personally rate it at an intermediate level.