Put them over your knee and show them what happens to naughty people who break the rules. Just remember to aim for the fleshy parts of the body, such as the butt cheeks and upper thighs. Only do more dangerous practices when you gain experience. Special care with breath control, gags that make breathing difficult, and urethral tubes. The strings deserve special attention in blood circulation.

Or, you could deny them a spanking. “Sometimes a submissive will ‘act out’ to get the punishment that they really enjoy," says Taylor Sparks, erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven, the largest BIPOC-owned online intimacy shop. "One way to punish them is to NOT give them what they enjoy." 3. Forced silence.A practical study is much more beneficial than a theoretical study. You’ll see that there are a lot of boring people who know a lot of theory, but don’t know how to tie a shoelace on their sneakers. What chore(s) does your sub hate doing? Make them do it—meticulously,” Pfeuffer suggests. What better excuse to not have to do the dishes tonight? 13. Make them eat on the floor This is a form of “restrictive discipline,” much like giving your sub a “time out” in the corner. If they break the rules, take away something they enjoy as punishment. This could be access to the show they want to watch, their cell phone, or even an orgasm. 22. Writing lines Be tough when necessary, but be polite. It is not a frown or fear that will make the submissive obey you, but the admiration he will have for you.

Punishment can include spankings, slapping, choking, use of restraints, or (consensually) forcing your partner into sexual acts," says Daniel Saynt, founder and chief conspirator of The New Society for Wellness, a private members Open Love club for the adventurous. "It's really up to you and your partner to set the limits of what's okay for punishment and what's not.” Always show yourself superior in attitudes, but never in knowledge. We all have a lot to learn from others. Run away from the bad-mouthers from behind, when you turn around, you’ll be the victim. I speak from experience. I was a victim of it.Do not demand anything financial from the sub, unless you are a GP Dominator. In this case, make it clear from the beginning of the D/S relationship. Force your sub to agree to keep their pretty little mouth shut. You can go a step further by not allowing your submissive to speak while in a public place without asking permission first. 4. Denying your sub an event they’re looking forward to Refuse to let your partner pleasure you and make them beg for a taste," Saynt suggests. "Come within a few inches of their mouth, watch their tongue slip out and get just close enough but not quite there. Make your body their prize and make the longing for it the punishment.” 11. Grab the ice