I couldn't have known this except after the fact, but in all the other chapters I could have just read Ms. While there are some fascinating chapters to this book, for example the parts that cover straight men who have fantasies about sex with men, and the part on bisexuality, the author's chapter on homosexuality is really "off".

The only ones who did were men in analysis, which already sets up a situation in which the result is going to be skewed if they are viewing their fantasies from the standpoint that there is something wrong with what they desire. Whether you agree with her methodology or thesis--fantasies are triumph of love over rage-- Men in Love is engaging, eye-opening reading, and not only for its sexual content. In creating this historic study, Nancy Friday listened -- without disapproval, apology or censorship -- to the candid responses of thousands of men aged fourteen through sixty.The men are not repulsed by women's bodies, genitalia (or even anuses), pubic hair, effluvia, or uninhibited sexual desire or pleasure - quite the opposite. and forget her, their friendship and feelings of masculinity somehow reinforced at the woman’s expense. Her approach is heavily psychoanalytic, relying on the primal conflicts the young boy faces in early life with mother and father for its explanatory power.

I have brought several more of Nancy Fridays books to read,you have to be a little open minded to read this as it is quite explicit at times. It is shocking to me how many of the men contributing, had sex in childhood or early adolescence - with adults or older adolescents as well as with other children, and not uncommonly with family members.In the mean time, it gave me and my partner lots to talk about and each conversation was fun if not surprising.

It's true by her own admission that when she solicited stories she ended up receiving virtually no responses from gay men willing to tell their fantasies and secrets. Having this unconsciously remembered evidence of mother’s warmth and reassurance with him, he is encouraged to go forward into sexual pleasures. It was also disturbing and bewildering to me how the cases of child molestation, and of children having sexual fantasies and having sex with each other, just seemed to be passively accepted by Ms.

I guess fantasies are not intended to be judged; but when the so strongly reflect half the population's stance to something as vital as sex? The wide range of fantasies explored in this book will guide every reader to a provocative point, urging them to expand upon what turns them on …. While the book shows that sexual longing and desire cross a large spectrum of identities, that doesn't mean people stop being what their identity is. Consequently, in the long pre-sexual years she has no chance to develop the association between a naked man and the erotic.