Join Fever for our Summer celebration on Saturday 8th July. Revel in our private world of joyous sensuality in the uplifting West End. You can rely on Fever’s sinful selection of sexy couples & single women, our excellent bar, the generous playspace and hours of delightfully decadent deeds. I needn’t have worried though, as Master Boudoir, the club’s impeccably dressed host, had already prepared a special treat for us – personalised vodka bottles. How it impacted her relationship:“Sexual jealousy has never really been an issue for me, and as long as my needs are being met, I feel secure and aroused when I watch a partner enjoying someone else. I think one mistake some people make is assuming that swinging has only one meaning, but it’s something that is totally open to interpretation. Some of my most intimate, fulfilling encounters lately have been ‘soft swap’— meaning I have sex with my primary partner, and have foreplay only with our ‘guests.’” How it impacted her relationship:“I’ve never been tempted to stray outside of my relationship by having an affair. Swinging takes care of all of my sex needs. I really feel that it strengthens every relationship. I don’t view sex as something that you only have with someone you love. Sex is recreational. I think every boyfriend I’ve had has felt the same way. Along the way, I started filming myself with various people and decided to take my swinging/exhibitionist/kinky lifestyle and make it full time. I guess you could say that swinging has enriched my relationships and also enriched my life.” Another said, “Now I am very broad minded but that needed some serious warnings before it was on. Bit OTT. Love the concept in the right situation.”

In fact, the manager reveals that the club has 20,000 members and another 5,000 on the waiting list, and some of the less desirable men will never get a membership. The Australian Broadcasting Corporation’s “You Can’t Ask That” features different groups of Australians and asks them questions that people want to know the answer to but wouldn’t bring up in a regular situation. Through meeting and exploring sex with other couples, learning new peoples’ bodies and preferences can help you become more aware of your own and your partner’s as a result, says Morse. That self-awareness piece (and knowledge of your partner) is key here. If either of you tend to experience jealousy intensely, then swinging could potentially be a challenge for your relationship, according to Morse. Once you’ve established what jealousy looks like or doesn’t look like for you as a couple, you can move on to thinking about swinging more seriously. “From there, you and your partner may find you even strengthen your communication and trust, and build an even more solid foundation upon which to have sexy adventures,” says Morse. Saturday 6th January– from 9pm New Year Party Night ( Guest list Applies ) If it’s your first visit you must call Mary on the club number for details… I leave Cassandra and the Master to do their thing, and venture outside to the smoking area, where I chat to a few of the guests.It’s actually incredibly polite, and I was both flattered and felt safe – if it’s a no, you simply shake your head, or smile and walk off. There are plenty of misconceptions about sex parties, some of which may put people off or give unrealistic expectations about what to expect. Here are some of the most common: You have to be naked Purple Mamba describes itself as: "The Midland's most intimate, exclusive private club for liberated adults." Sunday 12th November – Super Sexy Sunday from 4pm – The only way to spend your Sunday! (Guest List Applies) Here’s one major caveat: You need to communicate exactly what the arrangement is. “For any type of ethical non-monogamy to work peacefully, and here I’ll include swinging, you really have to be on top of your communication game, and be incredibly self-aware,” says Dr. Emily Morse, host of the podcast “ Sex With Emily ”and author of Smart Sex.“Most folks think any type of non-monogamy is about more sex, but if anything, it requires more communication!” You need to take extra time to process your emotions around your sexual relationships and how its impacting your main partner, even if you develop other sexual and romantic connections, emphasizes Morse.

If you’re new to sex parties, some clubs offer events for beginners. ‘These are not full on sex party events, but more like a taste of what they could be,’ says Di Mattos. ‘There’s no sex or nudity and they’re a great place to gather with like-minded people. These types of parties are a great option if you are thinking of attending your first party but not yet fully committed to doing so.’ There are different rules and requirements around alcohol – on some occasions you are asked to bring your own.Le Boudoir is a bring-your-own venue, and I suddenly regretted that we’d only armed ourselves with one bottle of wine. As the wedding date slowly crept up on us, I sort of felt the pressure of, ‘I haven’t had any other sexual experiences, I haven’t played with anyone else.’”