After we got married, he became so controlling and jealous. I put up with it. I wasn’t fooling around — he just didn’t want me to talk to any men or even go out to lunch with girlfriends. Our marriage was really falling apart.

I am in my second marriage. And yes, I am cheating on my husband. I wasn’t always like this: I used to be faithful. I used to be content with only one man. I used to love and trust, from deep within. However, my first husband turned me into something I never knew I could be: A murderer! I killed him, Dave… I poisoned my first husband, and watched him die in our bedroom, painfully. I mixed a deadly, colorless, tasteless, odorless substance with my lotion, smeared it gently on my breast, rubbed it on my vagina, put some on my lips: I coated every part of my body I knew he enjoyed putting his mouth and tongue on, and watched him swallow every bit of his own saliva, mixed with the substance.At that point it kind of started to wake something up in me though I hadn't really embraced it yet. We talked about it I said I didn't like it and didn't expect it blah blah. She then asked me why I wouldn't expect it, she was up front about her promiscuity when we first started to chat. And if I didn't like it then why did I just watch instead of interrupt? I had no answer, but I said I loved her and we could work on it.

then about 18 months later I discovered that she had another BF as well and had had for years and i was delighted ... funny what a difference a bit of time makes .. and further talk revealed that she has cheated almost all teh time we have been married .So I am now fantasizing about putting on on female lingerie etc when I visit them... particularly when spending the night.

Above all else, make sure your kids know that you love them, that you will do everything in your power to be there for them, and spend time with them. Don't let your relationship with their mother keep you from paying attention to your children. During that time as i knew they did most of their chatting by facebook i was logging in and seeing what they were up to , not proud of snooping , but i kind of felt justified .After pacing the kitchen for a few minutes trying to gather my thoughts i looked in the sink and immediately knew what i had to do. My eyes caught my handy dish glove and it was obvious what task had to be completed. I even told him in effect that if all went well, this could become a regular thing with him and my GF. Why I cheated on my husband, I still don’t know. It was purely an unfortunate mistake. I was tempted, and I fell for it. I didn’t plan to cheat. There was no reason for me to cheat. I am happily married to a great guy, and father to my baby. All he’s ever done is to love me. He’s never wronged me. I just made a mistake. I have no feelings whatsoever for the other guy. It was just sex.