And then the big things: Wondering if you're unlovable, knowing that you're the only one you can count on, and always being on the lookout for that special someone.

Critics have accused Doyle of creating a new breed of Stepford wives, but none of the women I met was remotely brainwashed. However, your marriage can heal from this type of infidelity once you begin surrendering, if your husband is willing to recommit himself to monogamy.

I was born in the 60s, the term "surrendered wife" wasn't coined then, but in all aspects that's exactly what my mother was. Remember that the sooner you reject what is inappropriate for you, the sooner you will be able to form a relationship with someone who will treat you like a princess.

Ladies, I know that it is hard to see the problem, and I am sure that I will not explain it properly. When you surrender to your husband, you accept that a supreme being is looking after you both,” reads one passage. As this community struggles with assimilation and with its boundaries around authenticity, the outcome of that struggle will likely set the tone not just for the design of a home, but also for female visibility and leadership in the Orthodox sphere. Quite simply, they would not be in sync, but rather would be tripping over each other and eventually pulling apart. If I had trusted my brother to make his own way in the world, he would’ve felt more inclined to continue to share the emotional milestones of his life with me.Maybe life threw you a major curveball and you discovered infidelity and you find yourself looking at life as a newly-divorced man. Just as it's not "dishonest" to go to work when you're not in the mood, it's not dishonest to treat your mate with respect when you don't feel like it.