You deserve someone who will show up for you the way you show up for them. I hope you seek patience in the process of finding love. I hope you hold your standards high because you do deserve what you desire. If you need to rest, rest without guilt. There’s so much going on in the world all of the time. Sometimes everything feels too heavy. Your body will fight rest because you remember all of the people you feel are being more productive than you. But sometimes the most productive thing you can do is rest. Learning to take care of yourself will only make you more productive in the future. Your love is never wasted. Your love is always seen even if it is not received to the depth you are giving it. I don’t know what happened to your heart, but please, remind yourself that it’s okay to need a lot of time to move on from what hurt you. It is important to not give your heart away too soon. It is important to rest and reflect. It is important to take time to grow. Growth is tiring, but growth is so important. Published by Thought Catalog Books, an imprint of the digital magazine Thought Catalog, which is owned and operated by The Thought & Expression Company LLC, an independent media organization based in Brooklyn, New York and Los Angeles, California.

Please, if there’s one thing you do ; today, let it be to hold your soul in compassion. You have been through far too much to be anything but kind to yourself. Satu kekurangan lainnya dari buku ini adalah, aku merasa ada beberapa pengulangan paragraf sehingga terkesan dipaksa agar memenuhi halaman. Some people can’t help us with our healing because they haven’t done the healing work themselves. I hope you don’t let someone’s inability to help you discourage you from finding the people who can. There are people out there for you. This is your sign to continue searching. You can pull the dreams out of the box you’ve held them in and let them soar. You can be whatever you dream of being. You can breathe and be held by the comfort of your breathing. You can do nothing if everything feels like too much.

Doing the healing work starts with divine knowledge that you are ready to begin the work. Sometimes trauma is too raw to dig into. When we experience something traumatic we go into survival mode—we go numb to the point that sometimes every breath feels like a struggle to take. We need immediate relief. We need to feel safe. We need something to remind us this isn’t the end for us. We need someone to reach out to us and we need to reach out to someone for help. We need to know it will be okay. We deserve help. We must remind ourselves we are not a burden. Healing may happen all at once for you or it may happen in different seasons. It may come and pause, then begin again. Only you know what you need. Trust your body. Listen to it. Oftentimes trauma lives within our bodies and shows up before our brain recognizes it’s deeply affecting us. We never feel ready to begin the difficult work. It’s really, really hard to remember bad memories. But, we are always stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Sometimes along the way to being okay the best thing you can do is remind yourself that you will always end up okay—even if you don’t believe it. Write it down. Make a song with only those six words. Paint the words in a picture or draw them on your skin. Tell someone else they will always end up okay because sometimes reminding others helps us remind ourselves. The souls they take advantage of are the kind who love more than the love they receive. The kind who don’t stop caring about others even if others haven’t cared enough about them like they are worthy of. The kind that have been through too much. The kind that are doing their best to keep going even though life keeps beating them down. The kind that everyone wants to know and love. If you are loving someone through their grief, remember that having nothing to say is okay. Remember to trust that your spirit will guide you when you are speechless. Remember that just being there for them and holding them when they need to be held is powerful. Remember that it is okay to feel deep sadness, too. It’s okay to cry with them. It’s okay to need other people’s support. It’s okay to need to be held through it too. Giving all of your compassion and care to someone is draining. Be there for yourself, too. You get through it the best you can together and in the end, it brings you closer together.

Give yourself all of the time you need today to just be there for yourself. Don’t pay attention to the people who judge you for needing to do what’s best for you. You don’t need anyone’s approval when it comes to taking care of yourself. More than anything though, don’t judge yourself. You are allowed to feel what you’re feeling. You will figure out what you need, but you don’t need to know what that is at this very moment. Let your feelings flow.Salah satu buku self-healing dari Thought Catalog. Berisi afirmasi-afirmasi positif untuk diri. Berupa paragraf-paragraf singkat namun bisa terasa mengena. Bisa dibaca sekali duduk dan aku rasa bisa dibaca berulang sesuai kebutuhan. Thank you for being the light that shows others they are not alone. The world truly would not be the same without you.