One of my clients is a great example of this. A professional with several years of experience, she’s also the youngest member of her team. Because of this, taking notes at meetings became her responsibility and one that she took seriously. But it got to the point where she would spend so much time editing and perfecting the notes that it took time away from her being able to actually execute essential tasks that she had built her skills and training upon. She had to learn to set a boundary with her team and with herself that she should only dedicate a set amount of time and effort on these notes so that she could get to more important, strategic work. To paraphrase Dale Carnegie, decide how much time and energy something is worth and refuse to give it more. Ascertain that your romantic connection is based on both love and honesty. Encourage each other to improve. You may be adding to each other’s laziness if your relationship is one of absolute ease.

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God is a distinct being, separate from his own creations as well and he is responsible for himself. He tells us what he likes and dislikes, who he is, and who is not. And if you sow badly by drinking, smoking, and spending more than you earn, than chances are you will reap poorly. In the physical world, boundaries are easy to see. Fences, signs, walls, moats with alligators, manicured lawns, or hedges are all physical boundaries. In their differing appearances, they give the same message: THIS IS WHERE MY PROPERTY BEGINS. The owner of the property is legally responsible for what happens on his or her property. Non-owners are not responsible for the property. What can I do when someone wants more of my time, love, energy, or money than I’m comfortable giving?

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Boundaries have great psychological depth and, if you’re religious, this is your N.1 book to draw your boundaries, learn to say no, and become more assertive. About the Author: Henry Cloud is an American Christian author. He holds a BS in psychology from Southern Methodist University and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Biola University. Boundaries Derive From God’s Nature

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As a speaker, he is a favorite at corporate events, conventions, and public arena events on a variety of topics, speaking regularly throughout the U.S. and internationally. But the law can be suspended when people keep helping and intervening to prop up the individual who keeps repeating the same bad behavior over and over again. Dr. Cloud's next workshop is called The Path. The Path is a life-changing online workshop that will teach you how to accomplish anything from New Year's Resolutions to your daily goals to your biggest and boldest dreams. If you can't attend live, don't worry, you can stream the recording as much as you like. To find out more about it go to https://Boundaries.me/path Think how confusing it would be if someone told you to “guard this property diligently, because I will hold you responsible for what happens here,” and then did not tell you the boundaries of the property. Or they did not give you the means with which to protect the property? This would be not only confusing but also potentially dangerous. This is exactly what happens to us emotionally and spiritually, however. God designed a world where we all live “within” our- selves; that is, we inhabit our own souls, and we are responsible for the things that make up “us.” “The heart knows its own bitterness, and no one shares its joy” (see Proverbs 14:10). We have to deal with what is in our soul, and boundaries help us to define what that is. If we are not shown the parameters, or are taught wrong parameters, we are in for much pain.

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Many people focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. That’s why the ability to set clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. Boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Drs. Cloud and Townsend offer biblically-based answers and show how to set healthy boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself!

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What do you mean, ‘boundaries’?” the father asked. “Look at it this way. It is as if he’s your neighbor, who never waters his lawn. But, whenever you turn on your sprinkler system, your water only falls on his lawn. Your grass is turning brown and dying, but Bill looks down at his green grass and thinks to himself, ‘My yard is doing fine.’ That’s how your son’s life is. He doesn’t study, or plan, or work, yet he has a nice place to live, plenty of money, and all the rights of a family member who is doing his part. No, he doesn’t set limits on what people can do, but he sets his standards. And when they behave outside his standards it’s like he is saying “you can be that way if you want, but you can’t come to my house”. Emotional Distance is Temporary Boundary The second purpose of boundaries is to keep us safe. Boundaries keep the good stuff in and the bad stuff out. We can expose ourselves to toxic and damaging influences and persons if we don’t set firm boundaries. The author says though that it’s good to keep your distance and emotional distance if you have been in dysfunctional relationships or abusive relationships.Think about discussing limits and capacity. When an employee says, “I can only work on these two projects in this timeframe,” leaders can be assured that the projects will be done well because they’re not taking too much on. Leaders should also make decisions to manage other resources across the organization so work can still be done. If there’s too much work to spread around, there may be a business case for a new full-time employee. But this conversation starts with a conversation around boundaries.