A year ago, I went out on a couple of dates with a man younger than me, he was cute and very interested in me, but I just didn't feel the connection. Since we'll never know what caused him to have this particular kink — kinks really are mysteries — let's just run with that: He thinks this is hot — or his dick thinks this is hot — because guys like you aren't supposed to have painted toenails, and guys like him aren't supposed to paint toenails, FOOTPERV, and this small transgression against gender norms makes his dick hard because it does. We live in a deeply sex- and kink-negative culture, and our first reaction when a partner discloses a kink is often a knee-jerk negative reaction to the idea of kinks at all.

If nothing else is going on — if you aren't on meds for depression or anxiety, if you've had your hormone levels checked and they're normal, if a new form of birth control isn't cratering your libido — then the most obvious and likeliest answer is probably the correct one: Three years after getting out of an abusive relationship, JAG, you're still reeling from the trauma. And if you really hate it, FOOTPERV, if it freaks you out to have polished toenails — or if your masculinity is really so fragile it shatters under the weight of toenail polish — then you don't have to do it again.

Screenshots, stories, problem-solving, feature requests, profile reviews, rants, memes, advice, and more. I wanted to just keep a good thing going, but he just threw me a curveball that I need help figuring out how to handle.

If you were claustrophobic and your boyfriend wanted to mummify you, FOOTPERV, or if he wanted to use you as a urinal and you weren't into piss, I would totally give you a pass. An absolute must is a chatroom with an experienced bear knowing all the secrets of steamy bareback fuck! Even if you were to get your hormone levels checked or adjust your psych meds or switch to a new birth control method, I would still recommend seeing a counselor or therapist. Besides ridding yourself of a toxic and abusive ex — and that's harder than people who haven't been in an abusive relationship often realize and I'm so glad you got away from him — did something else happen three years ago that could've tanked your libido, JAG? Don’t miss a video chat with a straight guy shy but curious of stripping on cam and having a dirty talk about his gay sexual fantasies.Could an undiagnosed medical condition that came on at roughly the same time create a libido-tanking hormonal imbalance? Honestly I was thinking about this long time ago but now I am pretty much sure that I will try to sell my pics on Feetfinder etc.