Open relationships, polyamory, and swinging are becoming increasingly acknowledged as a (healthy and happy! First, establish whether this is something you want IRL, says Engle, “because that is a different animal than simply having the fantasy.

Cuckolding is the specific fantasy of letting your partner have sex with someone else, but only if you get to watch or hear about it (in detail) after the fact. Keep reading to learn what we’re all dirty dreaming about — plus how to act them out IRL, if you want to. Gabrielle Kassel (she/her) is a queer sex educator and wellness journalist who is committed to helping people feel the best they can in their bodies.Not everyone will be comfortable with changing their relationship structure, but if you do decide to move forward together, you’ll need to practice this kind of open communication,” she says. Communication, as always, is key to learning if your gender bending or sexual fluidity fantasies mesh with the likes of your partner. For example, “I’ve been thinking it might be hot to talk through a fantasy of another woman going down on you in bed.

If you’re having cheating fantasies, Corrado offers the following advice: “Identify why you’re having this fantasy. Group sex is also a pretty accessible fantasy — you might not be able to have sex with your favorite celebrity, but you can probably find someone who is down for a threesome,” according to sex educator Cassandra Corrado with O.The feeling of facing the unknown [and] trying something for the first time can give you a thrilling adrenaline kick, and for some people, arousal is connected to that feeling of adrenaline,” says Corrado. Corrado says, “Really, this kind of play is about radical trust because it’s a vulnerable type of play. If found, just provide us with urls to copyrighted or illegal content on DMCA/Content Removal request page and it will be removed within several hours.