All of a sudden the mother understood how the situation felt from the child’s point of view: that if my mother wants to hurt me, then it makes no difference what she does it with; she might as well do it with a stone.

Spanking should always be a last resort, after issuing non-physical punishments like timeouts, grounding or denial of privileges. Turning off the personalised advertising setting won’t stop you from seeing Etsy ads, but it may make the ads you see less relevant or more repetitive. Even if one lives in an area where hitting children is normal, one does not (IMO) have "to be compassionate with their worldview that routine physical abuse is normative and good".Not hitting too hard is even more important with a spanking on the bare bottom and/or younger children. But one day, when her son was four or five, he did something that she felt warranted a spanking-the first in his life. By doing this, my parents taught me at a young age that their word was the law, and that any disobedience from the law would leave my rear end sore for the next week. Talking can help clarify the situation: either helping the child realize why their decision was a bad one or helping you realize that your child didn't misbehave after all.

Babies (under 1) should not be spanked and kids over 5 should have other methods that are more effective.But from a child’s perspective, there’s no difference between being spanked and hitting a friend for taking away a toy.

You are not going to change a lifetime of someone's thinking with a brief comment, any more than her comment changed your thinking. He doesn't need another candy cane, chocolate chip cookie, or glass of milk to keep the holiday cheer going.

If your family chooses to discipline through spanking, it needs to be the most infrequently used tool in a comprehensive discipline toolkit. After a 1 hour and 15 drive from home, we waited to be seated and ended up talking to the owner who was apologizing for his decision to cancel the seafood buffet as apparently it's too expensive for him.