The tone and volume of our voice can tell much about our emotions. Sound frequencies create vibrations. When reading people, notice how their tone of voice affects you. Ask yourself: Does their tone feel soothing? Or is it abrasive, snippy, or whiny?” 11. Listen to what your gut says How to Read People Like a Book is a compelling read that teaches you everything you need to learn about reading other people's body language, learning their motivations, and uncovering their true intentions so you can foster deeper, more authentic relationships - anytime, anywhere! Master the art of reading people like a book! Confirmation bias: You might look for signs that confirm your current opinion of the person, ignoring those that contradict it The Secrets of Body Language: An Illustrated Guide to Knowing What People Are Really Thinking and...

For example, you can look at their hairstyles and clothing. Or look at how they behave in a certain way. When we look at research [on the chills], outside of the evolutionary response to warm ourselves, it’s music that seems to trigger it, as well as moving experiences and even movies,” said Kevin Gilliland, a Dallas-based clinical psychologist. Evy Poumpouras says that “if someone is leaning in and all of a sudden you say something and their arms crossed, now I know I said something that this person didn’t like.” Affiliative smile: Involves pressing lips together while also making little dimples at the side of the mouth. Sign of friendship and liking. As an exercise, try to practice watching talk shows on mute. Watching their facial expressions and actions will help you see what people are feeling when they are talking, without hearing any words.They are relatively straightforward and intuitive to identify. You’ve probably heard of the six “ universal expressions”: We sometimes assume that if a particular action is done, like looking down at the floor during a conversation, it means the person is nervous or anxious. Another thing to keep in mind is distance between two people. When people are flirting, the space between them often decreases, according to a behavior analyst. Judith Orloff M.D says that when reading others, try to notice people’s appearance. What are they wearing?

He also mentions that tapping their fingers together means they are thinking. So if you see this in the context of a business negotiation, it could be a great sign that they’re seriously considering your offer. 17) Watch how they walk According to LaRae Quy, a former counterintelligence agent for the FBI, “people have different quirks and patterns of behavior” and some of these behaviors “could simply be mannerisms”. A lot of nodding could therefore signal a person sees someone with a lot of respect, or considers them an authority figure.

13) Look how often they nod their heads

Foster stronger relationships and know exactly what to look for by debunking myths and reinforcing facts that make reading body language a practical, accurate tool for success For example, if your boss says she’s “decided to go with brand X,” the action word is decided. This single word indicates that most likely your boss 1) is not impulsive, 2) weighed several options, and 3) thinks things through.

You can take Harvard’s Project Implicit questionnaire to find out what biases might be affecting your thinking. 6) Consider how your own behavior affects them Actor-observer bias: You might attribute their actions solely to internal traits, without seeing how external factors influence them This book helped me realize that persuasion and manipulation are not very different from each other.What does this mean then? If you feel like a person’s smile is fake, you might be right. But just because a person’s smile looks genuine, doesn’t mean it really is. 15) Look at their clothing what is your most personal, meaningful achievement, disappointment and failure? ( help understand their flows and what they are proud off, who they want to be, have their expectations been fulfilled)

Just because a person is saying religious verses doesn’t mean he believes in them and follows in his life. Isn’t it possible that someone is acting in a certain way to promote a propaganda? It is possible, right? So aside from cultural, situational, and individual context, also consider the context of other behaviors. 3) Look for hints on traits in the right situation Nonetheless, don’t assume that you can see everything from the smile. Researchers used to believe that a genuine smile was impossible to fake. But actually, a more recent study has shown that people are pretty good at faking a “genuine smile”, even if they’re not feeling happy. Another study took this even further and compared speech characteristics to people’s Myers-Briggs Personality Type. They found a few more indicators:Most of the time, we make up our own stories and succumb to biases, and thus read other people incorrectly. A person’s posture says a lot about his or her attitude. If they hold their head high, it means they are confident. When you talk to someone, try to notice the words they use. When they say “This is my second promotion,” they want you to know that they also earned a promotion previously.