Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment is a 2009 self help book by Steve Harvey which describes for women Harvey's concept of how men really think of love, relationships, intimacy, commitment, and how to successfully navigate a relationship with a man. And, as a rule of thumb women, try to read more dating books for women written by men. Women advise other women to be strong and independent, but that’s a covert manipulation and it’s not effective.

You know damn well that you’d rather spend your days cuddled up in your pajamas, binge watching Friends instead of taking two hours to get ready and hammering ten shots to make yourself appear (somewhat) interesting. Be who you are and Mr. Right will love you for that specific reason. If he doesn’t, I’d honestly rather be happy, alone, than settle and be miserable. By being a high quality woman, by setting the bar high and by demanding and requiring proper behavior, you communicate that you’re a keeper. https://thepowermoves.com/men-mars-women-venus-summary/ PART TWO: Why Men Do What They Do 5. First Things First Or have you ever thought to yourself that you lead yourself on the most? Stop imagining yourself with the guy who only wants to hangout with you incoherently on the weekends. As a woman, you will know if a man is serious about you once he claims you (like you are piece of luggage at the airport or something I guess?)I read it on a friend's recommendation and out of curiosity. While a very few points are insightful, most of the book is incredibly offensive and belittling of women. I cannot believe the chapter, "Why Men Cheat." He's basically saying, men cheat because they can and it's probably the woman's fault. He's constantly contradicting himself. At some points in the book he emphasizes the need to be straightforward, but then there's a whole section where he's giving advice about how I you should twist your words in such a way as to be "gentle" so that a man doesn't feel less like a man.

Do not ignore your gift. Your gift is the thing you do the absolute BEST with the LEAST amount of effort.” –S.H. a b Gleiberman, Owen (April 25, 2012). "Think Like a Man". Entertainment Weekly . Retrieved April 27, 2012. Sex, well, Steve says men can only go a month without it. And if you start rationing out sex, he’ll be looking for it elsewhere. And that’s why you need to make him feel like he’s providing for you (later chapter). 3. ProtectingDon’t be afraid to be upfront with him, either. You start catching the feels? Ask where things are headed or if things will ever get serious between the two of you. And with that comes… Another thing: he says a woman needs to have her man say this to her: "When I don't see you, I miss talking to you, I always wonder what you're doing and whenever you come around, I just feel better—you're the type of woman I've been trying to find." And he goes on to say, "In other words, his answer has to make you feel wonderful. He may not be in love with you just yet, but he's crazy about you and he's probably thinking he wants to explore a long-term commitment with you..." He has to explain himself on everything because he is not clear. He has no examples of good, healthy marriages in this book, to prove his point. It's all on a whim and what he believes. He puts all men in one category and it proves absolutely nothing. I think this book emasculates men! His relationship story with his wife doesn't convince me that he has good advice! What man says "I'm going to marry you someday!" when she walks into the room? I told my brother (who is 19!) about the things in this book and he agreed with me! Steve Harvey is a confusing male and doesn't have business writing a "self-improvement" book. I'm actually going to review this book as I read it. I actually find it very simplistic in dealing with relationships. Steve here deems men to be simple creatures who are all basically the same regardless of upbringing, culture or creed. He makes some really sweeping assumptions about both men and women. The fact that he assumes that all men are running some sort of game on us women tells me that he really does not have a broad view of people. To me the book sounds like the advice that a father gives to his girl child before he allows her to go on dates with guys, just to make sure that she is not duped into sleeping with them. Harvey says that when a woman says she doesn’t need any men, men cannot provide and protect, and they feel useless. In the book, Harvey instructs women on how to be a "keeper" rather than a "sports fish". He asserts that men are "simple", and that women should understand that they can never be first in a man's life without understanding and accepting that men are driven by who they are, what they do, and how much they make.

I cannot tell you the fulfillment we have in knowing that we’ve secured your time (…) it’s all the affirmation we need That’s one of the reasons, Steve says, that poor men run away from their father’s duties: to escape their feelings of inadequacy ( indeed Tony Robbins says his father ran away when strangers donated his family food for Thanksgiving). I'm sure that if woman laid out the rules- requirements- early on, and let her intended know that he could either rise up to those requirements, or just move on. A directive like that signals to a man that you are not a plaything-someone to be used and discarded. It tells him that what you have- your benefits- are special, and that you need time to get to know him and his ways to decide if he DESERVES them.It is sexist, misogynistic crap. And honestly, men should be livid that people like Steve are out there saying that men are basically egotistical walking impulses with no discretion, no thoughts, no nurturing instincts, minimal care for their partner's hopes and dreams and needs unless that partner makes his life perfect and easy, and of very little value except for what he brings home and what he can do in bed. I'm sorry to say this, but this book is a JOKE. The first half of the book, it acted like it was talking to smart women, telling women what drives men and how to make your man feel like a man. Then the second half was talking to dumb, easy girls, making sure they have standards for themselves and don't be clinging to a guy who has other women hanging on his other arm. It didn't flow into "this is what you need to do next" from the beginning. Ladies: set some standards; make a man respect you, make him put in effort, and make him work for it. Once that is established, you’ll notice a change in the men who pursue you and the way you approach love and life as a whole. In any case, we should probably take the advice of a man whose current wife was his former mistress with a few grains of--or maybe a salt shaker's worth of-- salt.