Sexual restraints are fun, naughty, and exciting! They allow you to live out all kinds of naughty fantasies and engage in a wide range of sexy and sensual role playing games. But mastering how to actually use sexual restraints is a whole different game! So today we’re going to help you understand how to use these devices, and explain the best kinds of ways to restrain your partner! These types of sexual restraints are pretty self-explanatory as to what they do: they stop your sub from being able to move their wrists or ankles. Whether you want them bound together or held apart. This is perfect for both restricting movement and allowing awesome access to all of the fun bits! Yummy!

If it’s your first time having sex with a woman or someone with a vulva, Dr Bisbey says you should treat it like you would having sex of any kind for the first time.One unique thing I love that you’re not going to find in cheaper chairs with a similar design is that this one is height-adjustable. Depending on what you’re doing, height can make all the difference in your comfort depending on whether you’re looking to bounce or stay in to eat. The legs can easily be turned to raise and lower the seats and they even mark off the height for you so you don’t have to struggle with guessing to make sure all the legs are the same length. The seat can be as high as around 15 inches off the ground and as low as 11.8 inches. Sex toys do things humans cannot,” agrees Epiphora, a blogger who has been reviewing sex toys professionally for over a decade. “Humans don’t vibrate; humans don’t have penises made of stainless steel.” But that also doesn’t mean that toys are a replacement for, or a threat to, human relationships. Even if you use a fancy stand mixer while baking a cake, you’re still the one who baked that cake—and by the same token, the pleasure and fun of using a sex toy with a partner is often more about the partner than the toy. If your sex life has come to feel monotonous, sex toys can help you conjure more intense versions of sensations you already enjoy, and help yourself feel more closely connected to your partner. There’s a widespread misconception that sex toys are a thing you use before you meet your partner—or something you use for solo play when they’re out of town. But sex toys aren’t just for single folks, Lisa Finn, a sex educator at Babeland, tells SELF. Instead of trying to tie onto something, the restraint wraps around underneath the mattress so the weight of the bed holds them in place. For more substantial pieces you'll need a dedicated spot or be willing to stash them in a closet or other storage area.

I like two-piece restraints because they’re easy for one person to put on the bed but the downside to that is you can’t leave them on all the time like you can with restraints that are fully hidden under the mattress and because they’re separate, the sub will have a little more wiggle room with this design than they would with a more X-shape system. Once you’ve clipped your sub in, you can’t restrict their movement any more than that the way you can with single-piece under the mattress bondage by tightening the straps. Those are the three most important rules in D/s: safe, sane, and consensual. While there is an inherent risk in anything, it's the responsibility of everyone involved that those risks are minimized and that communication is open so everyone is consenting actively along the way. There are six tie-down points total: two on the top, two on the upper platform, and two on the base. That’s where inflatable toys like Dark Magic come in. It inflates into this lounger (a foot pump is provided to blow it up) which holds the thrusting motor exactly where you need it. There are bolsters built in to prop your legs up and there is space on either side of these bolsters for your legs if you want to flip over on your knees. The internal attachments can also take advantage of the Cowgirls rotation functions and the different stems included. Some stems are firmer and others have more give for a different feel depending on your preference.The Cowgirl is covered in easy-clean PU upholstery and is built to hold up to 400 pounds. It has a 10-foot cord that is modeled off high-end music equipment.

Be present with your partner and take your time.’ She adds, ‘Make sure you are clear on consent. And then explore and have fun!’ Communicating with your partner If you want a really restrictive experience, then why not try strapping your sub into a hogtie? These are designed to restrain a person’s arms and legs behind them, preventing any form of effective movement. It has the added benefit of allowing complete and total access to each and every fun part, with absolutely no limits!To make it extra spicy, there’s a slot in the center of the seat where you can put an insertable toy and then sit your sub right down on it and hold them there with the restraints. The chair comes with a toy to start with that fits the slot but be warned that it’s quite realistic if that’s not your general toy preference.

It's not weird at all. If you're being safe, sane, and consensual, then just have fun with it. Can I Recreate Fifty Shades of Grey? How to use: Lay down a towel or sex blanket before doing wax play, to protect your bed from any errant drips of wax. Light the candle and wait for some wax to melt at the top, and then carefully tilt the candle to drip some wax onto your partner’s skin. It’s best to start with the candle held fairly high—you can stand by the side of the bed to do this—because the farther away it is, the more time it’ll have to cool before hitting skin. You can move it lower if more pain is desired. Avoid delicate areas like the face. When you’re done, gently scrape off all the wax using a butter knife, credit card, or similar (you can roll it up in the towel or sex blanket until you can get to a garbage can to throw away all the bits of wax). Positioning furniture can help take the strain off of your body and enable you to try positions you might not be able to otherwise. That could be something as simple as a cushion to support your spine and reduce your pain or something more involved like a sex bench to hold limbs in place. Finally, although disclosing your kinks can bring up a lot of internalized shame and stigma for some people, remember that kink is actually quite normal: Studies estimate that about a third of the population has tried kink in some form or another, and even more people have fantasized about it. “Don’t preface [your request] with saying, ‘This is so crazy, and I’m so weird.’ Just confidently say what you’d like to try and what you’re into,” Zane suggests. “And if they’re not into it, don’t feel rejected. Don’t try to change their mind. Gracefully accept their boundary and try to find a middle ground of something you’d both be interested in exploring.” This might be easier said than done, but remember that there are plenty of kinks you can explore solo—such as sensation play, using nipple clamps, and some types of rope bondage—if your partner’s not into it, or if you don’t have (or don’t want) a partner. Types of kinky toys And don't forget to ensure that there's a clear safe word or signal in depending on how restrained your sub is. If they're wearing a bondage hood, a hand signal might be better than a word. Now What?If you're looking for something easy to store that can restrain your partner but isn't connecting to the bed, you might want to consider spreader bars. Is It Weird That I Want to Be Tied Up or Want to Tie My Partner Up? Sexual restraints are restrictive accessories that allow you to explore different balances of power during sex. Sexual restraints can be used on different or all parts of the body: the most common sexual restraints are those used on the wrists (such as handcuffs)! There are all kinds of things you can use as sexual restraints: ropes, handcuffs, and satin ties are all fantastic feeling options. The type of sexual restraints you choose will depend on the activities you plan on partaking in, as some endeavors may require stronger restraints than others. What Kinds Of Sexual Restraints Are There? Communicate with your partner first. Talk about what you want to try, what you like, and any fears or concerns you have,’ she advises. But how do you tell your partner what you like?