She only laughed and said that mostly women want to get it over fast and not letting the man orgasm would only make it so he was always horny. Reasons you might want to try orgasm denial include wanting to engage in power play, wanting to have sex for longer than usual, wanting to better enjoy the stages of arousal before orgasm, and wanting to make orgasms more intense.

Things they find pleasurable- The Dominant should find out things that submissive would like to try or things that she really likes and give her more of that as a reward Maybe it’s something as easy as allowing her to masturbate while taking a hot bath or as elaborate as a spa day being pampered. Many women keyholders ask themselves two questions: 'have I kept him locked up too long' and 'should I keep him locked up longer?

This can be done in many ways, including having intercourse and then stopping when your partner is close to the edge, having one partner use a vibrator or other sex toy on the other, oral sex, manual stimulation, or some combination," Mintz says. Alternatively (for men), the release of semen during the emission phase of ejaculation might be prevented by some sort of constriction ("blocked orgasm"). Part of the draw of the lifestyle as a submissive is to relinquish control to someone else so that they can help you be the best version of yourself. For increased psychological effect, have your man be the one to beg you to keep him locked up longer, and make sure his pleas sound sincere and appreciative.

Tangible items are nice, but non-physical things can be just as wonderful, and they don’t require any money spent.If I broke a rule and knew that I disappointed my Dominant, I would need to have a discussion about what happened, why I shouldn’t break the rule, why the punishment happened, and that I am still loved and cared for. You are also to do three minutes of composing prospective posts for the SDMB, every hour–but you must permanently delete them. By following rules that are set by the Dom, the submissive can relax and trust that they are taken care of. Each missed edging session is 10 rubber band snaps on each of your nipples and each missed nipple play session is 3 snaps on each nipple.

Orgasm denial can also be used to increase a submissive's tolerance for physical stimulation, as training in holding back an orgasm, or to allow the submissive to orgasm on command; as a way to maintain a heightened state of sexual arousal in the submissive, or as a means of erotic humiliation desired by either the submissive or the dominant. As a sub, your Dom may require proof that you have completed the task when you are out of his presence. After 5 days, you will enter a 2-day abstinence period in which you are not to touch yourself sexually in anyway.Like I said earlier, discipline and punishment are two totally different things, but they are related.