Interesting book, one of a group of books I'm reading because I know younger Christians find these books relevant and meaningful and I'd like to be knowledgeable. This book is in reaction to books like "Love and Respect", "Sheet Music", "His Needs, Her Needs", etc. which focused on women being available to their husbands to help them not fall into sexual sin. This book wants women and men to understand that sex is about more than that, should be pleasurable for and desired by both partners, and if that isn't the case, here are some tips..... :) The Great Sex Rescue is designed to take the messages of many previous Christian sex books and put them in the context of current polling and research, facilitated with the range of individual stories from follow-up interviews and turn around what is often one-sided advice and make it more helpful. The reframing of ideas at the end of each chapter is probably the most helpful aspect of the Great Sex Rescue. It is not a book that is just pointing out what is wrong; it is also committed to figuring out how to present a positive message. I didn’t realise until I got married just how deeply I had absorbed the pervasive evangelical teachings about sex and marriage. The obligation sex message and the teachings around lust in particular have caused so much hurt for me and my marriage, so I was thrilled to hear that Sheila, Rebecca and Joanna were writing The Great Sex Rescue to help challenge these teachings in a big way!

The "all men struggle with lust" message has taught us to trade trust for fear in our marriages, so it shouldn't be surprising when sex doesn't work. Jesus told us to look at the fruit to judge the tree, and the fruit of this tree is nasty. Women are made paranoid because they are told they can't trust the man they married, the good man who loves them. These books unjustly paint husbands as sex addicts and pathological liars, while normalizing ogling women. If this is the fruit, why have we kept the tree?" In recent years, we’ve seen a huge rise in ‘silver singles’ – divorcees in their fifties and above who find themselves out there on the single scene for the first time in decades. Keep in mind that anything that affects your general health and well-being can also affect your sexual function. Sexual health can be affected by: Reap the benefits of experience. The independence and self-confidence that comes with age can be very attractive to your spouse or potential partners. No matter your gender, you may feel better about your body at 62 or 72 than you did at 22. And it is likely that you now know more about yourself and what makes you excited and happy. Your experience and self-possession can make your sex life exciting for you and your partner. Stress is an enemy of great sex. So is anxiety about performance. Minimizing both helps maximize your enjoyment of your partner. “If we can quiet our monkey-minds, put a stop to that ceaseless inner-chatter, we can open ourselves up to better sex,” Britton says.Have you ever felt like Scripture makes exceptions to standards of Christian character within marriage (love, peace, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, joy, goodness, PATIENCE & SELF-CONTROL)? Cohen, S. et al. “Does Hugging Provide Stress-Buffering Social Support? A Study of Susceptibility to Upper Respiratory Tract Infection and Illness,” Psychological Science (2015) 26:135. Alix Fox, sex educator and Durex sex and relationship expert. 9. See your partner through other people's eyes This book has made me cringe from the many examples from other books that have been written, that talk about sex, and the stories from other women and how they have been taught that they must be in a marriage. I have cried from some of these same stories that show women were treated like objects for sex. To think that this is and has been taught for years in best selling books by well known authors is heartbreaking. White, JR. et al. “Enhanced Sexual Behavior in Exercising Men,” Archives of Sexual Behavior (1990) 19:193.

If you’re like a lot of men, chances are it wasn’t. At least, the sex wasn’t as good as you think it could have been. Condoms have improved in recent years, so Susan suggests trying out a few different types. And if you’re worried you may have already caught something, see your GP – or your local sexual health clinic (visit nhs.uk) for free anonymous testing. Problem: It takes longer to climax She suggests that couples read from erotic books together, especially if they want to work on developing a "dirty talk" vocabulary that gives them the language cues without feeling self-conscious. Reading off scripts, she says, never works as well as if couples find a book they really like together and can build off of that jargon. 8. Experiment with Toys and Props They explore the evangelical teachings about sex, lust and more, and with clarity explain where the teachings go wrong, how they objectify women and hurt men and women in general, and how we can reframe them in a healthy way. I am so thankful for the courage with which these authors are boldly challenging the evangelical literature which has caused so much heartache!Have you bought Christian marriage books, honestly done your best to follow their advice, and yet not seen any real positive impact? Expand what sex means. Holding each other, gentle touching, kissing, and sensual massage are all ways to share passionate feelings. Try oral sex or masturbation as fulfilling substitutes to intercourse. There is no other book like this one speaking to the evangelical world. I will be recommending it to friends as often as I can: married, engaged, single. It’s message is life-giving and swelling with freedom for women who’ve been under the burden of these teachings for too long. I'm definitely not the intended audience as a single woman. But at the same time, as someone who grew up in this culture, I value much of the points made by the authors. I found them generally grace filled. It also forced me to confront many lessons I imbibed about about sex and marriage, intentionally or not. Which was really helpful. People in good health with a decent level of fitness are nearly twice as likely to be interested in sex as they grow older, and also more likely to report having a satisfying sex life, according to a study by the University of Chicago. The research found men in ‘very good’ health could expect to add seven years to their ‘sex life expectancy’, while women in the same position could add up to six.

Let go of the myth that sex should be spur-of-the-moment – spontaneous sex isn’t necessarily better. Planning it is often associated with boredom, but change the way you think of it from ‘scheduled sex’ to a ‘tryst’. This essentially means ‘planned sexual encounter’, but sounds more exciting. Organise a tryst with your partner for later that day, or even that week, and spend the time before fantasising about it. It also gets rid of that whole ‘are we? Aren’t we?’ feeling, and ensures sex actually happens.Men are called to be the men that Jesus sees them as and can empower them to be, not helpless wimps You don’t build a great sex life by telling a woman that unless she becomes wholly available to her husband in such a vulnerable way, he will betray her by turning to pornography.” Falling oestrogen levels in the lead-up to – and following – the menopause causes women to produce less vaginal lubrication, which can make sex uncomfortable and reduce the likelihood of orgasm.

A lot of men wind up thinking that their sex life is missing something, that other men are having wilder sex or more frequent sex,” Davidson says. “They have a sense that the pleasure ship has sailed and left them behind.” Men, this book is a must read! This book is not just for women or even just couples. This book will change your outlook on sex and marriage. If you have read books like Every Man's Battle or Love and Respect, then this book is one that you NEED to read to understand the lies that you’ve been taught and how to recover what God intended! The Great Sex Rescue is the resource we need to combat the lies, misinformation and silence of the church and Christians from the past. Looking at what we've had for "Biblical" resources until now, the book breaks down the harmful and down right hurtful teachings we've been either receiving or espousing ourselves through the years. So many "Christian" resources basically treat women as the receptacle for their husband's needs and pleasure without giving any thought as to how that degrades and cheapens us as human beings. According to Michael Castleman, a San Francisco-based sex expert and author of Great Sex: A Man’s Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex, the average frequency of sex in committed long-term relationships is roughly once every 10 days.

Fleabaghas memorably put female masturbation on screen. Period. End of Sentence. – a film about women making biodegradable sanitary pads in Hapur, India – won an Oscar for Best Short Documentary, prompting the headline: Menstruation Finally Gets the Attention It Deserves at the Oscars.