Yet: I really did find Tara Schuster to be likeable and relatable, and even if she seemed to have gotten most of her best ideas from other sources (which she notes), I can still see the value in this book for the right reader. It’s about self-love, showing up, and being present in the life you’re in, and I’m so glad to have gotten a copy.

Not just as a cover to cover kind of read, but as a trusty manual you take notes from and remember something new every time you pick it up.

However, it wasn’t the fierce memoir I expected, but rather a self-help book for someone in their twenties. All you're doing by going for the shock factor of cursing in the title is guaranteeing your book won't be reviewed anywhere because they can't say or print the title. With humor and a great deal of herself laid bare, Tara shows the reader where she was in her life when she realized it wasn’t working for her.

So much so that any personal “improvements” really are — at the end of the day — self interested, fragile and (I strongly suspect) superficial. The most nutty thing were the unimaginably cruel voice mails her estranged mother would leave her after her parents separated and the mother took the younger sister, leaving Tara with her dad. In that world, the “individual” seems required to “win” against any wider social and cultural imperative. The author probably had little to do with this next part, but the "swear words in the title" trend needs to end.I was expecting empowerment but I ended up disliking the author's voice - it seemed a bit self absorbed. Growing up in a rocky household with parents who later divorced, becoming a self-proclaimed "party girl," and then working through her issues and later landing a pretty high up job with Comedy Central is the gist of the author's life. Her plays have been performed in the New York International Fringe Festival and her writing has appeared in The New Yorker online.

The second half of the book I didn't connect with at all; no one is ever going to convince me to go on HIKES and I've been in a stable relationship since I was seventeen so those chapters just. When the plane is going down, even the mother in the instructional video will put on her mask before her child’s. It certainly didn't mean that I had worked out all of my issues from childhood and now everything was “perf, thanks, byeee .The third time, from the context, I realized she was trying to say “right now,” and apparently didn’t have the time or space to be clear about this. As a kid, the books of David Sedaris made me feel like I was not alone in having a "different" family and my prayer-hope-please-oh-please-wish is that my book gives you some comfort. With humor and compassion Tara takes you through some rough times and gives the reader some short cuts so they don’t have to go the long way. I thought that was life: a series of problems to be tackled until you have lived another day, only to face a new disaster.