Alternatively, many individuals, after reading the mind-changing book, like to delve deeper into the strategies and take our online 12 module Personal Development course or our new Feel the Fear and Journal course. Whilst reading this illuminating, informative book I thought about – how everyone seems to judge things on the literal/ what they ‘see’.. Not everything is as it seems. It is so easy to assume or pre-judge (which leads to bitterness or twisted notions). People seem to care so much about others and their appearance/ attitudes/ reactions and actions on face value..

Thousands of people have read ‘feel the fear’, and understood the wisdom in the book. They feel better for a short-term afterwards, but unless they have taken the time to complete the activities which Susan listed in the book, this feel-good feeling dissipates. My Christian faith has always guided me, even when I’ve fallen into the abyss and lingered in loneliness. I truly believe that courage takes time and you have to stop worrying what others might say/ think etc. Remember you’re not alone, for there is a kingdom of invisible spirits all around you, guarding over you *Quote Jane Eyre/ religious connotations/ or in reality – other people* Susan’s idea of the Grid of Life, also known as the Whole Life Grid in Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, is to make sure that we are living full and rich lives. When our lives are well-rounded and richly developed, if one part goes away, losing that one part won’t gut us. For example, if all aspects of your life are fulfilling, if you lose a job or a relationship, you won’t be as devastated because you have your friends, your family, your hobbies, and more to balance things out. As Rollo May wrote in Man's Search for Himself: “Every organism has one and only one central need in life, to fulfill its own potentialities.” He goes on to say that joy is the result of using our powers to their fullest, and for that reason, joy, not happiness, is the goal of life..."

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Now however, i am strong enough emotionally to be able to face him and was able t tell him how i feel, of my intentions to change gender, to live my life as any other woman would.

The Lost Years: Surviving a Mother and Daughter’s Worst Nightmare (Kristina Wandzilak and Constance Curry) I had another book that was crying out to be read. I needed to go out and forgot to look at it again. I mean can you think of an excuse? I did. Intimidating? 'spose so. She is the author of many internationally renowned books including Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, Feel the Fear. . .and Beyond, Feel the Fear Power Planner, End the Struggle and Dance With Life, Dare to Connect, Opening Our Hearts to Men, Losing a Love...Finding a Life, Thoughts Of Power and Love, The Little Book of Confidence, Embracing Uncertainty, Life is Huge! plus her "Fear-less Series" of affirmation books and tapes (Inner Talk for Peace of Mind, Inner Talk for a Confident Day, and Inner Talk For a Love That Works). Her latest book is The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love, which was published in the UK in May 2005 and in the US and Canada by her own publishing company, Jeffers Press, in October 2005. One of the things I found reading through the book and listing my own personal fears is that the book helped me to actually focus on all these and I managed to find a common denominator so rather than several issues I really only have the one but it impacts on several areas of my life. The question now is to work on that fear and break it down into smaller areas I can work on that will eventually get rid of the fear in its entirety. The voice inside your head is just an opinion, she says. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) agrees. Often the voice is not leading you in the right direction, and can contribute to making you feel overwhelmed and discouraged from taking positive action. She calls the voice "the chatterbox," and advises the reader to "not let the chatterbox take over."Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway is one of those rare books which instantly speak to you, deep inside, on a subconscious level, even reading it makes you feel stronger, more powerful than before. I signed up to go to school a few years ago, I made it to the parking lot that first day, burst into tears...turned around & went home...cried for hours, nearly committed suicide...these feelings run very deep, & it's hard to move forward when there is so many painful memories of the past. These involve your inner states of mind rather than external factors. These are generalized fears that cut across many areas of life—such as the fear of rejection, failure, success—to reflect your sense of self and abilities. Level 3 fears The first part of the book asks you to list your fears in general but suggests that they fall into different levels. Level 1 fears are things that may happen such as being alone. Level 2 is why that fear may happen so being alone due to rejection or vulnerable and then the deepest fear of all, Level 3, is based on your negativity to these fears “I can’t handle it”. There are a few exercises in the book (not enough for me, I would’ve preferred more but it may be enough for others) and one is to create your “Pain to Power” chart. Basically a line where you mark off where you stand so if you are happy in your job you may mark that closer to the Power point but unhappy with your love life then mark closer to the Pain point. I admitted to myself that i needed to seek medical help, to rectify my situation, which includes taking hormones and having gender reassignment surgery in the future. I went to the doctor in december 2011, and by march the 19th i had seen a psychiatrist, who is now referring me to the gender identity clinic at charing cross, in london.

Then there's the author saying you should grieve positively - now yes some people can seem to go OTT but that's your opinion. If someone is grieving who the hell are others to judge how they do it? Same with thanking people who make you angry. In concept yes I can see that, and I agree that I am thankful for the things I have gone through as they have made me who I am today. But why the hell should I ever thank the bullies and the twits for making part of my life a living hell? Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. has helped millions of people throughout the world overcome their fears, heal their relationships, and move forward in life with confidence and love. Susan made the phrase “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” famous worldwide, but first she lived it. She helped millions of people throughout the world learn to overcome their fears, to heal their relationships, and to live with confidence and love, but only after she experienced those things herself through years of searching, learning, and self-discovery. Anxiety is a term which has become popular in recent years; however, anxiety is simply a word used to describe certain thoughts, feelings and behaviour created by hormones released when we are scared. when you blame any outside force for any of your experience of life, you are literally giving away all your power and thus creating pain, paralysis and depression.”Jeffers gets the book off on a good foot, with a great intro. She writes in a natural easy and engaging style. Accordingly, the book is very readable. Interestingly enough, despite how popular the book would become, she mentions that she had quite a lot of trouble getting it published in the first place. When you can accept your fear and act in spite of it, you’ll naturally overcome it. Jeffers breaks this down further into 5 truths about fear: Truth #1 Another point of the book is that the author has added a lot of her own stories and experiences, which I also did not find particularly interesting. As for the advice, it is the classic style of self-help of the abovementioned authors. For example, the ability to relax and a few tips that the author offers. Or positive thinking. Or building relationships with close people like Covey and so on. In general, at some point you come to the conclusion that you have already met half of the text of the book somewhere, that in some other similar books all this has already been mentioned. Plus, a handful of self-evident things. I stopped reading when she started dictating how cancer patients should feel and implying that how you feel is always a choice. Also, the "Pollyanna" style of positive thinking she advocated can often be like putting a plaster (band-aid) on a broken leg. I may reattempt this in future because my GP was the one who recommended it and lots of people have found it useful (it's even one of Reading Well's Books on Prescription). For me though, this was one of the worst books I have ever had the displeasure to read. The basic idea is good - but the way the author goes about suggesting you conquer it is, to me, beyond simplistic. I will say that this could be due to this being an abridged version of the book, and potentially the bits that were cut were all the bits that provided depth.