Tough people are able to adjust and pour their ability to persist into a new worthwhile goal; it’s switching from trying to write a chapter to simply outlining your thoughts

I know and respect the authors and their family. Alex and Brett Harris are the real deal, Christ-centered young men of character and vision, committed to serving Jesus with humility and excellence. In this God-anointed book, they communicate an exciting and paradigm-shifting vision for teenagers, emphasizing joyful self-discipline, collaboration and service. This tactic works just as well for emotional pain. From frustrating arguments with your partner to road rage, the more space you can create between stimulus and response, the more calmly and productively you’ll be able to work through issues and triggers. I'm not exactly a teenager anymore. But as I was reading I began to see how this can apply to anyone. It's never too late to start. I absolutely cannot wait to suggest this book to the 'kidults' in my life." They point out society's low expectations of teenagers nowadays, how it's considered "good enough" just to make it through school with decent grades and not get involved in drugs. So what’s the caveat? You should listen to your inner voices. Don’t ignore the negative or destructive voices in your head. That will only make them louder. But don’t just stop there. Listen to the voices that are giving you good advice and authentic support. They’re there if you let yourself hear them. Once you’re tuned into your voices and are listening to what they’re saying – instead of ignoring them in an attempt to feel tough – it’s easy to make sure the right voice is talking at the right time. Learn to respond instead of simply reacting.Do Hard Things: A Teenage Rebellion Against Low Expectations is a popular Christian book authored by Alex and Brett Harris, founders of The Rebelution. It was published by WaterBrook Multnomah, [1] a division of Random House, on April 15, 2008. [2] Alex and Brett are the real deal and Do Hard Things is a real wake up call, not just for young people, but for all God's people. I can't recommend it highly enough." Here is a three-part method to reliably return your amygdala to baseline and maintain a state of equanimity (evenness and composure in stressful situations): Self-determination theory (SDT) includes the need for autonomy, competence, and relatedness. Or stated another way, to feel in control, like you can make progress, and to belong

The authors say it best: "This is a dangerous book, as are all books that inspire you to live differently. It would be better for you to have never read it than to read it and do nothing about it." Traditional toughness says, “forget your psychological needs and just do the work.” The science of toughness says, “satisfy your psychological needs and you’ll work harder than ever.” Think of situations that typically require toughness: dealing with an unexpected diagnosis, suffering through a traumatic injury, weathering a financial crisis, a relationship breakdown, or a professional disappointment. Each of these situations brings a whole tangle of feelings and emotions with them. The better you’re able to identify and interpret these, the more likely you are to cope with the difficulties you face.

Do Hard Things is so important. It is challenging teenagers to rebel against the low expectations placed on them. And the voices that are asking teens to rise to meet this challenge are voices from their own generation. That thrills me." Set authentic goals for yourself. When you’re all about image, you set goals designed to impress other people: I’m going to run a marathon or I’m going to marry the most attractive partner I can find. But if these superficial goals don’t resonate with your actual desires, you’re unlikely to meet them. You might have even tried to adopt these strategies yourself. And you might have found . . . they didn’t work.