Lighter comes out 5 October 2022. Until then we recommend following @yung_pueblo to keep abreast of the latest updates. Growth and maturity aren’t about achieving perfection. Your goal is progress. You’ll experience benefits from progress, and these benefits will, in turn, motivate you to continue your journey of growth. However, this is not a bunch of separate sayings, but still beautiful in its own regard as he gets to expand on the short little message I see online. Yung pueblo speaks about his own life experiences while writing about the process of healing and how to accomplish that. You can only love another person to the depth that you love yourself. That’s why personal healing is the single best thing you can do to improve your relationships. Once you’ve calmed down and come to grips with your reaction, you go to your coworker, apologize unconditionally, and declare your intention to behave better in the future. But there’s more. Because now you get to go home to your own child. He’s sitting at the dinner table being told he can’t have dessert until he finishes his veggies. And he’s crying.

It also sheds fascinating light on the extent to which our minds are so heavily conditioned based on our past. The brain unconciously bends our perception of reality to meet our expectations or desires, and fills in the gaps based on past experiences: 'Our perception is completely coloured by our past and our reactions seek to repeat themselves endlessly'. Another cannot answer a riddle that was only ever meant for our own minds to solve. The universe seeks to enlighten and empower us, thus it is only rational that we are our own greatest healers. Yung PuebloYour first impulse or emotion doesn’t define who you are. It’s a part of you, but it isn’t the whole you. Either way, it’s important to understand what self-love is not. It’s not materialistic. It’s not about giving yourself a spa day or treating yourself to ice cream because you deserve it. There’s nothing wrong with either of those things, and they can be acts of self-care, but that’s not the self-love we’re talking about. Ultimately, to become 'lighter', we need to practice long-term self-awareness and self-reflection by examining our inner narratives and how our own thinking effects our emotions. Lighter (2022) guides anyone seeking self-improvement through the process of releasing the past and taking power over the future. It’s a combination of wisdom and proverbs as well as a practical guide for doing the inner work of self-healing. Introduction: How to get over your biggest obstacle in life . . . yourself.

Speaking of compassion, as growth leads to humility and humility leads to compassion, the people around you will experience positive effects from being near you. Whether that’s loved ones at home or not-so-loved ones at work, the power of your healing will touch lives. One: you’re no longer reacting immediately to things that have commonly triggered you because you’re able to pause and give yourself space to reflect. Just realizing the origin of your reactions is an important first step in healing. For our purposes, let’s define healing as reprogramming your brain from being in a reactionary or survival state to being in a conscious or logical state. Whether it’s indulging in comfort foods, staying up late binge-watching our favorite shows, or scrolling through social media endlessly, temporary cravings often override our real needs.Why is this often so difficult? YP introduces the concept of Radical Honesty and the idea that only by facing the difficulties that arise when we begin our healing can we proceed. We don't want to punish ourselves by the process, so awareness is crucial and self-care becomes critical. Being honest with yourself isn’t always easy. It means being able to face those moments that you’re embarrassed about or ashamed of and take responsibility for them. It means being able to admit when you’re wrong. When you react impulsively now, that reaction is programmed based on past experiences. It’s not a reaction to the situation right now. For example, maybe as a young child your father disapproved of crying. Maybe instead of comforting you, he shamed you. Fast forward 30 years, you’re at work complaining about the coffee being too strong. A coworker walks by and tells you to stop whining about it, and without warning, you’re overwhelmed by anger and you lash out at them.