He’s still the same guy I married, plus so much more. It’s the principle of semen retention that decided this marriage is now a FLR. The only rule we have is the ejaculation schedule with severe consequences for unauthorized spills. Everything flows from that, from his submissive giving nature to my dominance. I really think women are missing out on so much if they are not in a relationship like this with a semen retaining male. The world would be a different place if this was the norm. Once his balls are in your purse where he wants them to be, your relationship will transcend. I don’t know why, but men crave this command structure, and we women aren’t always good at providing it. But if we master it, the rewards are beyond measure. I hope blogs like this are the beginning of a change in our culture. I really only can say what works for us. I hope our experience has been useful for some. We’ve tried a FLR in the past but it just fizzled with time. I enjoyed it, but I guess it didn’t resonate with me. This time it’s so important to me on so many levels, and gels with spiritual traditions of the past. I see it as central to how I as a woman will transcend in my spiritual practice. ~Namaste Every once in a while, it’s nice to shake things up and spice up your relationship — and a little harmless teasing never hurt! It’s tough to keep up the passion and excitement in a relationship, which means you have to get creative and clever to make sure your boyfriend has one thing on his mind, and that’s you. If the man is expecting Her to do all of this then it is really missing the point. In FLRs, the power dynamic shifts so that the Women is in charge. However, this doesn’t mean that She has to now take complete responsibility for him and micro-manage his behaviours. Instead, he should be expected to manage his own behaviours in a way that always puts Her thoughts and feelings first. Her needs and desires are the priority for him.

Boot camp is an intensive approach. It works best when there is more than one trainer or the trainer has a lot of time. The idea is to break down the learner, break them of their will, then instill new values in them. It is a form of programming used by the military and law enforcement. This might be the ultimate fantasy for him. All training requires motivation and authority Some women enjoy playing chastity games with their men, without his agreeing to give them the final say. This is fine for some, but not for a truly female led relationship. To experience the real benefits of chastity, he must agree to give you full control. If your man truly cares more for your happiness than his own, he should be glad for the opportunity to prove his devotion and love to you. You should probably consider taking a serious reappraisal of a man who would rather have selfish orgasms than put you first and become a better person under your leadership. If you want him to take pleasing you seriously, chastity release has to be entirely your decision. As mentioned, ballooning is almost similar to edging with the addition of Kegel exercises while performing a massage on a fully erect penis concentrating on the lower shaft part and the perineum area. Sex (Absolutely her control area. She decides when and what she wants, I don’t decide anything. I’m allowed to ask, but not beg. And I’m not allowed to ask all the time (don’t be annoying!) but only carefully when she’s in the mood. Chastity and strict orgasm control are absoltely mandatory to her, no exeptions) Once your man has become a bit used to chastity, and perhaps even to his regular schedule of releases, it is a good idea to take them away on a whim, either here and there or even as often as you like. It helps to keep firm in your man's mind that chastity and release aren't about simple reward and punishment. Chastity is about giving you everything that you want, sacrificing simply for your happiness, and putting you in the driver seat of every aspect of your relationship that you choose. Release dates are only guide posts, you are the leader.Orgasm denial is often practiced as BDSM, and it involves maintaining arousal without allowing orgasm to follow," Astroglide's resident sexologist Dr. Jess O'Reilly, tells Bustle. "Oftentimes, a dominant partner will stimulate their submissive partner to high levels of arousal — even to the brink of orgasm — and then change things up, slow down, or stop to inhibit orgasm." She turned sat down and looked at me. Her face was blank, almost like she wanted me to catch her. I wondered, did she see me in the parking lot and decide to let me know? My DH has a bit of a fetish. He keeps asking to be seen in a compromising manner by one of my friends. I am after your thoughts on either/both of these. How I can deal with him? Or even how I could improve the situation to my own benefit? Also somewhere in this I spoke about how I was not good at reading hints and that I liked to know exactly what I was doing right or wrong. I mentioned that I would like her to help me be better by spanking me but she was not enthusiastic about that. Her comment being that I was not a child and she did not want to treat me as a child.

A positive learning experience provides rewards for goals met, praise for active participation and goal achievement. If you want your man to do the laundry to your standard, joyfully invite him to see how you do it. Explain what you are thinking as you go and have him repeat what you did giving him only positive reinforcement for what he is doing right and showing him what he needs to relearn. The goal is to learn how to do the laundry. Once he does give him affection and praise. Training your man by achievable learning goals and rewards This is going to put the focus on you instantly, even if his brain was in full force work mode. Do’s And Don’ts Of Teasing Your Boyfriend #1 – Do use inside jokes #2 – Do keep it playful and light #3 – Do make sure it works both ways #4 – Do tease but make sure you’ve got a solution Andre, you wrote “Her comment being that I was not a child and she did not want to treat me as a child”. Learning how to tease your boyfriend is a trial and error process. You need to remind yourself that you’re not always going to hit the nail on the head for various reasons. Beginners Guide: Purchasing Your First Strap-On Harness". Gritty Woman. 30 March 2014. Archived from the original on 9 August 2018 . Retrieved 31 August 2018.Perhaps you need to get a little cheeky and send him a naughty text at work when you know he’s in a meeting. Be straight to the point and make sure he knows exactly where your mind is, in the gutter, of course! When I read your comment I was very intrigued so I showed it to my wife. She only laughed and said that mostly women want to get it over fast and not letting the man orgasm would only make it so he was always horny. Way too much work according to her. Ya, I will still write there regularly , but I’m going to triple down on the amount that I write. I used to write 30 stories a month for my blog here , I intend to write in conjunction with Mistress Wael and hit those same levels of content. Where x represents new submissive slaves coming under my control year over year , added to n which is the total number of loyal slaves who repeatedly visit me on an accumulative basis year over year … all multiplied by the number of years I’ve been a Mistress , which you believe right now to be about 8.

We played for what seemed like an interminable amount of time until we were tied at two pie pieces each. Tied. Maybe that’s what my husband had in mind? As ever, the language used changes from person to person, but as you can probably guess, this is about getting someone closer and closer, before denying and cutting off their orgasm. Now, She expects me to be a responsible adult who is able to self task and achieve the goals that support Her. Do I answer to Her at the end of the day? Yes of course I do. Do I worship Her? Absolutely Unsuspecting slave returned and I landed on the history pie square in two turns. Easily my worst category and it is the only class in school I ever failed. There was one answer that I had read with the name of some Russian I didn’t recognize. Please God, let it be the one about Churchill! Thirdly, my cancellation rate has jumped from 1% to I’d say somewhere around 10% and that’s just never been the case.

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Fortunately, for those who have a budget, there a device called PeniMaster PRO, which is originally designed as a penis enlarger device. Coaches demonstrate the task or have it demonstrated then guide from the sidelines watching the learner and continuing to participate in their learning. Coaching as a style should be authoritative. The reward is getting the coaching and getting to participate. Training your man with the dominant teacher approach If I expected my Wife to create spreadsheets and list, to manage me like a small child, this would be exhausting for Her. She is busy enough with being a successful business owner and being the bread winner. The last thing I want to do is put more pressure on Her and for Her to spend Her precious time managing me. I am not a child, but I am expected to become a better husband to her and grow emotionally. Bondage techniques are commonly used to restrain the person being sexually denied, allowing them to experience their powerlessness more intensely. [2] This practice is typically called "tie and tease" and can be thought of as extended tease and denial games. This practice is often an integral part of sexual denial. In discussions between BDSM partners, negotiation usually focuses on the activities which may or may not be agreed to. Tie and tease activities are physically as well as psychologically intense, because the strong feelings of sexual frustration are escalated by the sensation of helplessness induced by bondage.