nav tipiska pašpalīdzības grāmata - tā nemāca KĀ vajadzētu dzīvot un mīlēt, lai sasniegu tos vai citus! Autors tajā dalās ar savu pieredzi daudzu garumā esot Budistu mūkam, satiekot un intervējot cilvēkus, kā arī ļoti plašām zināšanām psiholoģijā, literatūrā - senajās un mūsdienu. Ļoti daudz noderīgu atsauču, kas rosina pētīt un gribēt izzināt vairāk.

The advice isn't actually bad. But it's superficial and has no nuance. love yourself, be comfortable with yourself, fight healthily, don't be in abusive relationships, love not just your partner, support your partner. WOW. As DePaulo says, “One of our challenges culturally is that we don’t tell positive affirming stories about people who are single.” Whether you look at movies, music, or TV shows, usually, even though people in relationships are struggling, it’s highlighted when someone’s alone. 2. Chemistry starts a relationship, but character makes it last.

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Nadie nos enseña a amar y es por ello que, a menudo, nos vemos inmersos en relaciones amorosas cuyos únicos modelos son las películas románticas y la cultura pop. Jay Shetty se aleja de este concepto de amor etéreo, una mera colección de clichés, y establece los pasos específicos para desarrollar las habilidades que nos ayudaran a vivir y cuidar nuestro amor de la mejor forma posible.

I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being. Dalam 8RoL, Shetty menekankan kalau beda antara "mencintai" dg "memiliki" tuh tipis banget. Seringkali kita memaknai "cinta" sinonim dg "ownership." Padahal setiap manusia punya otoritas atas dirinya sendiri. Every one of us punya kuasa buat nentuin mau dibawa hubungannya (you sing, you lose). You probably came to this book wondering how to find or keep love with a partner. We want love in our lives, and we naturally assume it should take the form of romantic love. But it’s a misconception that the only love in your life is between you and your partner, your family, and your friends. It’s a misconception that life is meant to be a love story between you and one other person. That love is just a stepping-stone. Having a partner isn’t the end goal. It’s practice for something bigger, something life-changing, a form of love that is even more expansive and rewarding than romantic love." Aku ngeh banget gimana usahaku buat nggak mengulangi pola yg sama dg kekurangan orangtuaku (makanya aku baca buku kayak gini..). Tapi rupanya tanpa sadar aku juga punya standar yg nggak aku cantumin dalam ceklisku. Misalnya nih, karena dibesarkan dg ayah yg hobi ke museum & toko buku, aku jadi nyari partner yg juga bakal enjoy kalau ku ajak ke sana. I want to feel that kind of excitement dg orang yg kusayang & yg sayang dgku. Gerade in Sachen von Liebe und gesunder Beziehung halte ich vor 3000 Jahren als kein gutes autoritätsargument (;You should do what’s best for you, she told him. I want to be clear. I’m not sure where our relationship is going. He was unsure at first, but a month after she left, he moved to Austin. In Grhastha we will examine how to know if you’re in love (Rule 3), how to learn and grow with your partner (Rule 4), and how to set priorities and manage personal time and space within your relationship (Rule 5).

The ancient Greeks believed that there were seven basic types of love: Eros (sexual or passionate love), Philia (friendship), Storge (familial), Agápe (universal), Ludus (casual or non-committal), Pragma (based on duty), and Philautia (self-love). More recently, psychologist Tim Lomas, a lecturer in the Human Flourishing Program at Harvard University, analyzed 50 languages and identified 14 unique kinds of love.Kāds teiks, ka šī grāmata ir mūsdienu "pop'kultūras" ilustrējošs piemērs - un tomēr, tā (šī) ir tieši tāda pasaule, kādā dzīvojam. Steidzīgā. Krāsu, emociju, notikumu pārsātinātā. Nebeidzamu vajadzību un nesasniedzamu priekšstatu karuselis!