Fisting is a practice that seems like it would be on the margins but is, again, more common than you’d think. There have been informative how-to articles for fisting on even Women’s Health Magazine and Cosmo. There's a market for each and every one of them and that's fine. Did You Know that Being Kinky is Actually Really Normal? It’s been brought up to me, regarding these toys, that the majority of us already have a hand, two even, but the angle of going solo is a real hassle. These toys are great if you’re interested in fisting but not ready to do it with a partner. It takes time to stretch and acclimate to something of this size so this makes for a good practice tool to work up to it over time. For fantasy nerds, you can get toy versions of a basilisk, unicorn, as well as several versions of dragon from flesh-toned to neon green and scaley–which, I’ll be honest, looks more like a grub than something I’d like to sit on.

I’m sorry, but this just looks like someone has contracted a horrible alien virus. It doesn’t make me want to get busy, it makes me want to call the CDC. It’s odd, but it’s made fairly well. Your little squirrel buddy is made of body-safe silicone and has a magnetic induction charger so the entire toy is sealed and waterproof, meaning it’s safe to use in the bathtub. And that's not cool. Everyone is into different stuff and that's fine and healthy. I don't like white chocolate but it would be silly to call people who do like white chocolate nasty names, right? How Do I Not Kink Shame?

What Is Kink-Shaming?

LGBTQ folks get shamed for their preferences. There are cultural and religious communities that have loads of shame around oral acts. That is the general rule. There are people who are into sex stuff that you may find weird, strange, or even repulsive. For example, I have a phobia of balloons. (It's a little odd but true.) At the same time, I know there are full communities of people who have a balloon fetish. While that sounds like a nightmare to me, I also think it's pretty neat that as humans we have such a range of interactions with simple objects like a balloon.

A heterosexual couple having the most vanilla, loving, textbook-standard intimacy you could think of will be shamed based on their marital status. I know plenty of good, averagely-kinky folks who are into fisting but that still doesn’t mitigate my initial creep-out factor when I see a this fisting toy that’s a cast of a human arm. It’s just a lot to take in. (That’s a little fisting pun for you right there.) Their kink is not my kink but their kink is okay. Simply live and let live without making judgments. What If I'm Being Shamed?Don't panic! There's nothing wrong with that. Instead, be excited you've come upon an opportunity to explore something you didn't know you might want to explore.