Adding to this, Philadelphia-based author and social worker Feminista Jones says, “I’ve had enough chats with men who feel they don’t really know what women want or feel women aren’t clear in their communication about their needs ( i). But while the possibility for accurate diagnosis of autism using the DSM-IV is excellent, the accuracy of diagnosis for Asperger’s using the manual has come under question (Attwood 2003). He cannot help it: it may sound like a contradiction, but this seeming insensitivity actually stems in part from oversensitivity. A neurotypical (NT) psyche might realize that was an isolated incident, but the AS mind may see that as an inevitable outcome to any similar display.

You will constantly be challenged from within and without to be creative, to find new ways to keep romance alive. Many men with AS say that they are celibate or asexual, either out of choice or because they can’t find or maintain a relationship. Mayo Clinic has an awesome and super helpful rundown of how to handle these and like a a gajillion other types of medical issues, should the need arise. By the admission of many AS men, they don’t know how to flirt or cheat even if they wanted to and an overwhelming majority believe in fidelity. His “regular” friends may not have a clue as to what he’s like in a relationship and may not even know he has Asperger’s.If you are looking for a partner who will be joined to you at the hip 24/7, then you will have to readjust your expectations, otherwise you are almost sure to be disappointed. The accident was entirely his fault but he blamed everyone else, including the cop that gave him the resultant ticket. If a woman is willing to spend the rest of her life with an Aspie, because he has low self-esteem, he might think there’s something wrong with her.

He probably was criticized by his parents or previous girlfriends for it and believes you will probably take issue with it as well. You may be tapping your fingers on the dining room table, watching dinner get cold; meanwhile he is at his house catching up on paperwork because he didn’t think the exact time was important. Note: Many people with AS are undiagnosed, or are first unofficially “diagnosed” by their partner, the one who knows them the most intimately. What to do Although some doctors prescribe medications for the depression, inertia, and anxiety that often accompany AS, it will only be a temporary fix.A word of caution An AS male may keep his relationship with you completely separate from his friends, your friends, and everyone else in the world. Of course it would be better for all if he did receive an official verdict, but that is often difficult, sometimes impossible. Praise her for her qualities — she may be a good cook, a good painter, a great homemaker, a caring mother, or a successful career woman who is a pro at her work. One woman’s partner invited her to a club, then left her there all alone because he got in a “bad mood” and took a bus home.