I still kind of blame myself for the affair happening, but I know that it’s not true, and I am working on it. Now, my marriage is better than it was when we first got married. I’ve forgiven my husband, and we are going to try having a baby soon within the next year. The councillor basically told me there’s nothing I can do…he needs to change the way he sees me as he keeps repeating the same thoughts in his head…or triggering the same feelings…when he sees me. Therefore he apparently needs to rewire the way he thinks about me if he wants the marriage to work, and what does he have to lose in trying? So, after over a year of this you tell her she needs to find a new job. Her reaction is to tell you she "applied to a couple of jobs" with you having no way of verifying that. All while she still goes to her old job? Anyway she then started talking to my male cousin just for advice and within 2 weeks they were sexting and sharing nudes… 95% of the chats were about marriage, me and how to make it better but she claims the 5% was just there way of an escape from reality and meant nothing just words and pics and nothing physical.

Joan, You have been through a lot and it makes sense that you have chosen to leave. I wish you the best. Take care, Lori Affairs in the workplace are easy,’ says Hayley. ‘Rather than using a dating app, or flirting with a stranger at a bar, it will feel easier to cross the line with someone when there’s already that feeling of familiarity.’ I’m just blown away that significant others can even find time to ‘play,’ with kids at home & spouses who expect them to be home after work, then come home like everything’s OK. I still have my rough days, but that’s just life. I still don’t completely trust him, but I know that will heal in time. I’m really glad to know that I’m not the only person who is still giving their spouse a chance when it comes to affairs. I have been married for 22 years now and our marriage life was ok until last year when I discovered that my wife was having an affair with her boss (hospital administrator). My wife was free to do whatever she wanted at work and I was not bothered because I had trust in her. one day I escorted my wife to a hair saloon. Upon reached area, she left her phone in the vehicle. she forgot to close the message she reading. I wanted to close the phone, but only to find a message stating “I could not sleep because of yesterday’s kiss”. Then I left the phone and did not say anything because I wanted to know who the writer of the message. To my surprise after going through the message I found out that it was her boss. After three days I confronted her and she became defensive and said that those messages were meant for a her friend. Surprisingly, that friend of hers is also married and said that she fears that her husband might see those messages.

I knew what I had to do. I sheepishly returned to my seat and proceeded to eat every bite of that disgusting, cold, chewy, bloody, raw steak.” Jessica believes that as we return to the office, there will be an ‘influx’ of work affairs by the end of 2021.

At the beginning of 2017 I started questioning my relationship as i had a gut feeling that something wasn’t quite right between us and it was around that time me and my wife was going through a bad patch. My wife has been working for this company for 12 years and I know you can build up strong relationships with people you have known for all that time. My wife’s boss was also going through a bad patch with his wife so he and my wife would confine in each other. Anyway they both crossed the line and let their professional relationship become an intimate relationship where they both had feelings for each other. However I was not perfect in it all. I became emotionally distant from her so far as not always able to listen to or talk with her about things. It was not that I did not want to I was just soooo tired. As a result she did get upset and started speaking to friends about how I was not available to her enough and what could be wrong. I am most interested in your insight and thoughts on the past with my wife. Also, thoughts regarding the use of a polygraph. Can I ever continue trust her even when I know she has not changed but only pretends. We have two children, one is 20 years and the other is 14 years. I went in our room and bawled..mainly with relief. I just feel that maybe if there is a tiny amount of love…just maybe it can grow? I just really thought he has kept everything bottled up inside for so long…if he could just tell me his feelings..if we could just talk about the elephant in the room..it may help with the negative emotions and imaginings going on in his head.I told her to get out that night and she left for her friends. I was still trying to process everything. How could she do this to me? How can you do this to anyone? We’ve had 9 beautiful years without any troubles and you do this? I’m at home minding your daughter while you progress your career and you just shit on me? I was struggling big time. I’m 46, two adult kids, established small company 14 years ago wigh a colleague. He is simillar age, having own family. My family is ok, we do live in peace and understanding with my wife. We don’t have really marriage full of energy, however our sex life is alive and fine. I’m sure those snatched encounters at work are thrilling, but if someone does discover you in a compromising situation, one or both of you may even be accused of gross misconduct. Falling foul of workplace legislation, or leaving because things become too difficult, means you’ll end up saying goodbye to your job as well as your love interest. Boss/employee romances can be a minefield and need to be handled very carefully. He doesn’t have the experience folks around here have. As long as they work together the affair embers burn. His only hope, if there is one, is for her to quit working there. Years ago, she did everything that I could ask for to try to set things right for us…excepting the only thing that’s impossible now: to not cheat on me at all. That’s a bell that she can’t un-ring, and one that I can’t ‘un-hear’. Sounds trite, but the fairy-tale of un-blemished courtship was ripped away from us…due to her willing actions.