There are two different elements at play here. One is discipline and the other is punishment. How are they different, you ask? Don’t they go hand in hand? Yes and no. By definition discipline is to train to act in accordance with a specific set of rules. This is like going to the gym when you are training for a race of some sort. Punishment is a consequence of breaking a set of rules that have been established. Think detention for being late to school. Two sides of the same coin that work together for the best desired outcome. Little Kaninchen felt the same as I did, she desired for me to be in control, especially in the bedroom. This behavior change was on both of our parts and was an instinctual reaction to our new roles. Both of our desires had changed. Little Kaninchen discontinued any initiative during sex and I wanted her to do only what I instructed of her.

From the introduction on out the book went downhill for me. Each chapter is written in a very direct way that is off-putting for me. I try to educate in the manner that all things are subject to the couple in the relationship, that things can and do change and develop through negotiation and common desires and needs. The author writes her book as if her way is the only way that training will happen. She uses words like "should, must, expect, essential" as if all submissives have the same expectations in training. That even a couple in medium-high protocol follows training in just this manner. You have every right as a person to ask to talk about something before it is done and if they won't then RUN AWAY! Once the punishment is completed, aftercare is critical for the mental well-being of the submissive. The punishment is meant to hurt so that the undesired behavior doesn’t happen again. Aftercare reassures the sub that they are still cared for. The aftercare after punishment is not the same as aftercare after a scene. There should be some reassurance to the submissive to remind them they aren’t bad, they are still loved. Avoiding shame triggers is a vital part of protecting the submissive’s emotional and mental health.For those not in the know, subspace is what Monieau describes as being a ‘nice bonus’ of being a submissive. The perceived small quantity of male subs may stem from how the current cultural dialogue imposes gender stereotypes in which men should be in charge, while women are expected to be submissive. While BDSM has enjoyed more moments in the mainstream than it has previously – with the book franchise (and subsequent film trilogy) Fifty Shades bringing a (largely controversial and problematic) glimpse into a dom-sub relationship to a larger audience – there are still misconceptions, misunderstandings and an element of taboo surrounding men who prefer to be submissive. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical effects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. It can feel like a sense of fatigue, or it can be an intense bout of depression. Let’s get you some help. Full-time submissives, on the other hand, are usually the hard-core players in the BDSM game. These types of submissives may even be looking to live in a full-time dominant/submissive relationship. They will usually relinquish all control to their dominate in most if not all areas of their lives. Many of these relationships also involve signed contracts.

Like I said earlier, discipline and punishment are two totally different things, but they are related. A good Dom will help teach the submissive how to push their limits. They are training the sub to be the best sub that they can be for them.Your Submissive Files - A training resume is just another name for a folder where you are going to start keeping your list of training achieved, history and important documents. Throughout the course of this program, you will learn how to write your own files, learn to focus your training in the direction you wish to go and develop a personal development plan for your own growth. Whips- This group includes regular whips, riding crops, and floggers. Impact from these types of instruments spread the strike out.

Submissive Reflection: A Journey of Rediscovery](https://www.submissiveguide.com/store/view-book/submissive-reflection) is a workbook designed to build a clear picture of what your personal submission looks like and how to be the best submissive you can possibly be. The Dominant wants respect and devotion. The submissive must trust the boundaries and rules that are put into place. As a submissive, I rely on my Dom to guide me, lead me, and in return he gets my devotion. Punishments Finally, ask yourself honestly why you want to become a submissive. Is it because you truly enjoy the idea of relinquishing power to a dominant person? Or is it because your partner wants to dominate you? Remember, dominant/submissive relationships must always be consensual. Never become a submissive if you feel that you're being pressured into it. 3. Determine your level of submission. The most well-known type of Japanese bondage is Shibari, in which one partner ties up the other in beautiful and intricate patterns using rope. It’s a method of restraint, but also an art form. I am just now beginning to learn how to undress for Sir. I feel a bit silly, but the lingerie I wear for Him helps. So far He has only specified me to remove my panties while facing away from Him, slightly bent over. Beyond that, He has only asked that I please Him with my removal of my clothes, and I try to be creative and pleasing in the process.

Sir also requires certain ways of being touched, especially after intercourse. He prefers His chest to be stroked and will directly request it. Speech Restrictions- The submissive is not allowed to talk to the Dominant. For me, this would be a very painful punishment. I need a voice and to be unable to speak to him would be very painful. She is a new submissive in her first 24/7 dynamic. I received this wonderfully written review of her first 30 days and she offered to share it with everyone here. Enjoy! The focus of the CBT exercises might be on helping your submissive soothe themselves or specifically challenging them to conquer one of their fears. The Dominant might encourage your submissive to use mantras and to build positive habits. You may want to correct your submissive's negative thinking by replacing it entirely with line writing or other behavior modifications. The crux of any change or new habit is always consistency.