But remember how you went eighty-seven days without fish and then we caught big ones every day for three weeks.”

And then what I do with clients, as Sarah can remember is, I’ll say you know I’ll tell partners for instance, like don’t ask her if she’s hungry or what she wants. If she has to think about it she’ll say she’s not hungry. And that’s what happens. So what your job is when I’m not here for the 21 hours before you see me again is just put this beside her where she can reach it and it disappears. Sarah remembers like whoomph! Where is more? Sarah Trott: [00:13:46] And it sounds like you’ve also built your career around taking real action. So for example I understand that you have a business called Mother Bees which is about delivering food. While ‘The First Forty Days’ was the guide I needed to make my ideal postpartum happen, none of this would have been possible without my mom, bonus mom, and sister. Their help and encouragement brought my postpartum vision to life. I’m so grateful they were so deeply involved in my baby’s first few months. And you know our whole goal with here is how do we make– how do we strive to just pull this out and and hopefully shine light on this beautiful woman who’s just gone through this process and say you know you are here. You’re going through this experience. And how do we just make you the most beautiful seen person and not worry about your body weight, not worry about anything else besides, How do we serve your heart. Right now; let’s kind of do it for your belly first because that’s easy and it’s fun.

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The benefits of the first forty days with baby will only be as great as your ability to tune into your genuine needs and then communicate them to others. As we are pulled along by the bustle of our lives, it can be easy to break the connection to our authentic desires. We are often cut off from that place inside of ourselves that tells us what we need to remain fulfilled, peaceful, and inspired. We make decisions based on what we think we should do, what others tell us to do, what others have done before us. Now, as your due date approaches, begin to drop the “shoulds,” choosing instead to listen to what you believe to be best for you and your baby. The inner voice that communicates these messages will be your reliable guide throughout the first forty days and throughout the next eighteen years of parenting. The more you honor this voice, the louder it will get. Find the courage to ask yourself what you need and then to make decisions that are right for you and your immediate family, regardless of how they are received by others. (This includes being honest about whether you want a parent or in-law staying in your house after baby comes, and if so, when, and for how long. Be brave! It is okay to set limits.) Do I have what it takes to ask for what I need? If not, how can I build this courage? Can I begin practicing now? Heng Ou: [00:45:52] And I remember when I did not do that you know the breast infections came and then I was dehydrated because I didn’t want to drink a glass of water and go to the bathroom 60 times a day you know. But if I didn’t do that it really showed up in my breasts and my breast milk and infections came on immediately. So when I started to nap when the baby napped everything flowed a lot better and my mind settled. It’s a cycle isn’t it. If you don’t catch it early it’s just going to catch you some time. Q: I struggle with sitting still and I’m nervous about my First Forty Days. What tips do you have {calming the mind, body and soul} Today, Glenn is launching 'The First 40 Days: Seek God and Restore Everything,' a 40-day study that will restore our understanding of what it means to be in a covenant relationship with God. Through a study of the Biblical covenants, this 40-day devotional is designed to equip you with God's word to go out and do His will. Drink through the day, store in the fridge for up to 5 days, or freeze in freezer bags or glass mason jars, for up to 3 months.

Sarah Trott: [00:00:05] My name is Sarah Trott. I’m a new mama to a baby girl and this podcast is all about postpartum care for the few months following birth, the time period also known as the Fourth Trimester. My postpartum doula, Esther Gallagher, is my co-host. She’s a mother, grandmother, perinatal educator, birth and postpartum care provider. I’ve benefited hugely from her support. All parents can benefit from the wisdom and support that a postpartum Doula provides. Fourth trimester care is about the practical, emotional and social support parents and baby require, and importantly, helps set the tone for the lifelong journey of parenting. they continue with "The Garden" a song that might sound like a ballad, a soft and even depressing song with Heng Ou: [00:47:34] Makes a lot of sense and very very simple. Right. That’s what we’re saying first, because we’re here to mother the mother. If we think of that as a concept. It’s just she’s– she’s not a baby. We know that. But you know we all have those basic needs and we all have those very simple needs. It... was always going to be way too hippie for me. Not the Eastern traditions part, which I don't have a connection to but don't begrudge, but rather the attitudes towards motherhood & pregnancy & men expressed within. Just the description of a mother way ceremony, or whatever it's called, had me full on cringing in horror.As I’m sure is true for many of us, being raised in such an individualistic culture makes asking for any help at all pretty difficult. To ask for as much assistance as we’d need to make my postpartum vision possible felt inconceivable. Creating a shared calendar for when those three people would be coming over was one of those to-dos I didn’t get to before our baby was born ( oops). I love an assignment. I love taking my weekly cooking to a whole 'nother level of service. And I love babies, and new moms! I got the book and it's really special. The First Forty Days - The Essential Art Of Nourishing The New Mother by Heng Ou. Have you heard of it? If you are expecting or have someone in your life that is, buy this book. It's kind of a game changer. To be honest, I don’t think this sacred space would have been possible without ‘The First Forty Days’ and the guidance it provided me to create and communicate my postpartum vision. I will forever be grateful for it. What I’ll Do Differently for the Next Baby In the New Testament, Jesus was tempted for 40 days and 40 nights (Matthew 4:2). There were 40 days between Jesus’ resurrection and ascension (Acts 1:3).

And so one of the amazing smoothies from the book it has maca, spirulina and I just my heart just started to rise up from this fatigued place. Oh my gosh you feel so cared for. And then she while I nursed my baby she got to work and just cleaned my kitchen without saying anything. And so there’s something about this kitchen presence that is just sweet and kind and gentle and giving. And she taught taught me a lot about how giving food–one person to another– is just a small gesture but that transfers so much energy across. Sarah Trott: [00:39:18] I think I just had these assumptions that I wasn’t thinking about anything negatively, it was just like ok well yeah I know it’s going to be hard. Like I’m aware there’s going to be a challenge. And let’s just do it and what’s awesome about what I’ve learned from Esther and the two of you and many many other women now that I’ve had the opportunity to speak with is that there’s a way to create your postpartum experience. There is a way to think about it and change it and make it exactly what you want. it's melodic but not soporific, note the detail! "Broken Bars" beautiful intro, not too worked but gradually latent; title, a tune with an intimate, contemplative break and the guitar-keyboards association well highlighted, withoutHere’s an excerpt of one of my favorite sections, and you can use this as a way to start journaling your own vision for what you want your postpartum period to be like: Do You Deserve the First 40 Days? During zuo yuezi, the new mother stays home for a full month following the birth of her child. This allows her to rest and recover, to safeguard her future health and fertility, and to bond with her child. heartfelt vocals and later with so wonderful and also heartfelt guitar riffs. The song lasts almost 7 minutes, and in

Make a list of your postpartum support community, those people you can count on to do some light cleaning, cooking, or who can entertain other children that may be at home. When my dear friend Stephanie gifted me “ The First Forty Days” book, I had no idea what kind of impact it would have on my postpartum recovery. Reading ‘The First Forty Days’ was a revelation for me. Before, I struggled to imagine what I would need in the months following childbirth. People were offering to help me, but I didn’t know what to ask for.Cowritten by New York Times bestselling author Amely Greeven and Marisa Belger, The First Forty Days , fully illustrated to feel both inspiring and soothing, is a practical guide and inspirational read for all new mothers and mothers-to-be—the perfect ally during the first weeks with a new baby. I know. It was a great mistake. He might have gone with us. Then we would have that for all of our lives.”