A man should, of course, be a full participant in caring for children and the household,” writes Deida in a controversial sentence, “but if he gives up his deepest purpose to do so, ultimately, everyone suffers.”

The Way of the Superior Man lays out a challenge before all men to fulfill their true purpose and to be authentically masculine. It will guide you on your journey to a successful and spiritually complete way of life. Step up to the plate with this book in your hand.”—Tony Robbins, author of Awaken the Giant Within and Unlimited Power A man’s attraction to women must be converted from attraction to women into attraction through women,” writes Deida. “He must feel through her beauty, into the very delight of which her beauty is but a ripple and reminder. His whole relation to appearance is epitomized in his relation to women, either as obsession, distraction, or revelation.” Part Seven: Body Practices If you don’t have control over your ejaculation, then you cannot meet your woman’s needs. You must learn to convert the ejaculation “into non-ejaculatory whole body, brain, and heart orgasms.” Whatever that is. Find the limit at which you begin to fear, and live just beyond the edge of it; the Superior Man compassionately challenges his limits without trying to escape the fear itself. And without the support of science or study, his advice can be hard to swallow. Especially with sentences like this:

David Deida must have the biggest balls in contemporary spirituality." --Vijay Rana, Watkins Mind Body Spirit It’s about welcoming things like beating our chests and howling at the moon, but not thinking that’s who we have to be because we were born with a Y chromosome.

It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart," writes David Deida. "It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine." The Way of the Superior Man presents the ultimate challenge—and reward—for today's man: to discoverthe 'unity of heart and spine' through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment. We weren’t allowed to see him outside the practice space, which meant his assistant would assemble us, then we would sit quietly while she brought him in. After a few hours of practices, lessons and Q&A, he would exit while we sat and waited to be dismissed. Finally, there’s the reawakening of the ancient notion of male initiation – the idea that a male doesn’t simply become a man because he turns 21. In a culture that’s desperate to tell men that they’re ‘fine as they are’ and that they just need to talk about their emotions like women, many men are realising they’re not fine, that talking about feelings is ensnaring them in a world anxiety and that by going on a mission of facing fear, meeting the inner shadow, taking responsibility, not complaining and embodying traditional masculine virtues such as stoicism, courage and strength their lives are improving; as women – and other men – start to respect them and they start to find meaning free of egocentric identification and an instant gratification culture.

The Superior Man knows his priorities and pursues his purpose. In this section, you’ll learn the difference in priority between feminine and masculine, why you need a purpose and how to find it, and why you should prioritize it. Seek Release, Let Her Seek Fullness You have a unique gift to share, and you can’t fulfill your greatest potential if you never try. In this section, you’ll learn how to embrace and embody your true, masculine self, so you can channel your energy into giving your greatest gift, today. Maintain Your Fullest Consciousness Can we point to places in his writing where he clearly states that he’s not collapsing gender and masculinity/femininity? Yes, but look at his community and his workshops and you’ll see a different story. He’s not connected to the impact of his work, and the implementation of it is just as important as the instruction. There’s more in the world that’s feminine than just women; nature, beer, music—anything beautiful, energetic, moving, and relaxing embodies the feminine essence. Even now, you’re floating in an ocean of feminine energy. It’s life in all forms; the breath in your lungs, the beating of your heart in your chest, the breeze in the trees, and the vibrancy of nature. We see this in football: Our goal is to push through the constraint of our opponents and carry the ball to freedom. In war, we face death in service of a higher cause, giving our all for the sake of freedom. Even our orgasm is a slow build-up of tension until the moment of release frees us and empties us, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.