Four siblings experience the drama, intrigue, and upheaval of the '60s summer when everything changed in Elin Hilderbrand's #1 New York Times bestselling historical novel. If you feel guilty saying no, expressing your needs or standing up for yourself, allow this book to hit you with some uncomfortable but necessary truths. Michelle’s signature take-no-sh*t attitude combines with genuine compassion and expertise to teach you what boundaries really look like, and why you deserve them. Every woman in my life would benefit from this book.”

To get comfortable saying “no,” it may be easier to practice with strangers first, then trying it with friends and family. Banish guilt or the fear of being disliked They are about identifying something important to your wellbeing. That might be limiting time with a toxic friend, or saying no to a Friday night Zoom call. Michelle explains easily that by setting boundaries, we get our needs met first, without help from others, and once this has occurred we are ready to face challenges independently. We are free to reach out to others, secure in the knowledge that our safety barriers are set. How fun would it be to be single without questioning your loveability, to date without taking rejection personally, and to have sex without hating your body? Growing up is a minefield. You have to navigate new friendships, new teachers, your body changes, people are kissing, there never seems to be enough hours in the day ... and why is everyone suddenly posting their breakfast on social media?!One of the main problems around setting a boundary with your best friend or partner is you fear of losing them. When you have a support network you have other people to rely on.’ Admittedly, if you are a single parent of several young children, this book won’t magically send Mary Poppins to your house. But if you are solving everyone else in your orbit’s problems, this book will give you concrete reasons and methods to nip that behavior in the bud. Look, I get it that you've been a pushover in the past, and yes it may be useful to work on how you deal with people and become a bit more selective -- but in the words of John Donne, 'No Man is an Island' [or woman] and as such it isn't all about you or how your self-absorbed feelings have been hurt. In a world where dating advice seems to come either too late, too confusing or too strict, The Selfish Romantic makes dating fun again by reminding you that you are the one to prioritize and fall in love with. I wish I had this book when I was younger and dating! A book for any age trying to enter into partnership."

Even with friends and family, there has been an increased need for good boundaries. Especially in the beginning when the amount of zoom requests became endless, if you weren’t good at saying no to invites, this was an opportunity to start. For me, boundaries helped me realise you don’t need a reason to say no, you can just say no. Secrets. Lies. Murder. In this pulse-pounding Women's Murder Club novel, mysteries and lives unravel. Often people say, ‘If they loved me, they'd know.’ But people are not mind readers. People are not robots. You are not a predictable person,” she said. Let others know when they’ve crossed a boundary I received this advanced review copy of the book from a Publisher’s Weekly giveaway. I have already learned the lessons described in this book. However, both my best friend and my daughter will totally benefit from reading The Joy of Being Selfish. Now to decide which one to loan it to first. 5 stars! What’s up with the title, The Joy of Being Selfish? Well…sometimes you need to just say no. For your own mental health. If you never get any me time because you are constantly fulfilling the needs of others, this is a book you MUST read.This is the third book in a row with 5 stars?? Maybe I need to stop reading so many amazing books. Anyways, this is an extremely valuable book and I’m glad I finally got around to buying and reading it. It’s one of those books I could see being on read-before-you-die lists. Boundaries have been this buzz-word that I’ve used in my new years resolutions but I wasn’t exactly sure what that looked like until this book. Seeing social media posts from Michelle already helped me a lot with topics covered in this book, but isn’t it convenient and comforting that it’s in this little easy-to-read book too? I would highly recommend this book for anyone, honestly. Hopefully, I’ll be applying the things I learned to my life :> Boundaries are how we communicate what is acceptable and what is not,’ she adds. ‘They are essential for self-esteem, confidence and personal power. When you demand respect, your self-respect flourishes and you will have much better idea of your self-worth.’ If so, you need a strong dose of boundaries. It's time to discover the joy being selfish. Putting the needs of everyone around us before our own is ingrained in us from a young age.

There's an important difference, of course, between responding appropriately to bad treatment, and demanding the world bends to your every entitled whim -- but the lines in this seem to get somewhat blurred. One of the few people who truly embody the message that they teach. Her expertise is undeniable, her writing has the ability to connect with every reader in a way that feels as if they're being supported and understood" Elman tried an experiment she called her “Year of No.” She decided to say “no” to anything she didn’t want to do — without having to give a reason. Sample answers to invitations included “I thought about it and it’s a no from me” or “Unfortunately, I can’t make it work.” It felt awkward and clumsy at first, but towards the end of the year, it became second nature and she’s still following the rule today. Whilst the information in this book is interesting. Michelle is missing a little age (which will come to her) and another fundamental part - CHILDREN.Author and life coach, Michelle Elman, is here to show you how to say no and take control. 'No' makes you strong. 'No' makes you confident. 'No' makes you realise your worth and what you deserve. It’s free therapy!! Michelle Elman is roasting me and patting me on the head at the same time and I love her for it. There are lots of terms like self-love and self-care, but what exactly do they mean?’ asks Michelle. Hive Store Ltd 2020. (hive.co.uk) is registered in England. Company number: 07300106. VAT number: 444950437.