How it impacted her relationship:“Sexual jealousy has never really been an issue for me, and as long as my needs are being met, I feel secure and aroused when I watch a partner enjoying someone else. I think one mistake some people make is assuming that swinging has only one meaning, but it’s something that is totally open to interpretation. Some of my most intimate, fulfilling encounters lately have been ‘soft swap’— meaning I have sex with my primary partner, and have foreplay only with our ‘guests.’”

How she got into it:“I grew up with this idea that there’s not just one person for anyone and that we can enjoy being with multiple people, as well as the idea that you can have sex without having emotion tied to it. My husband knew that I was bi-curious when we met, so on the anniversary of our first date, we decided to explore and went to a swingers club.” He came forward, held my face gently, 'Honey, this is my fantasy from childhood. Please, understand at least when I am persistent from years. It's not like you will have sex with some random guy. There is a very good friend of mine and we can trust him, he is very safe in case if you have issues with having a stranger.' I'm still very confused and I've still got a pulse in the high 90's and high blood pressure from this. Usually I have a low blood pressure and a pulse of 50. I know that I'm just not thinking straight right now. I love her. I really do. I wanted us to grow old together, and she agrees but says that we aren't old right now(both mid 30's), so we shouldn't act it. She feels that she married too young (19) and never got to party and be young. I'm considering trying to maintain an open relationship with her. I even told her that I would consider the threesome with her and another guy. We are going to have a big talk about it later tonight. I don't want to lose her. We have 15 years together and four kids. I have always been faithful to her, even when I was in the Navy and saw other guys cheat on their wives left and right. I was a good boy, and now I feel that I've wasted that time and investment and maybe I should have had more fun.

You are letting her dictate the situation----don't go 3some, or open mge. If she is married then she needs to act married, and that is a 2some. That's what she took vows to do, for the rest of her life. The only ultimatum I threw out there was that before any other type of relationship could even be discussed, we would need to work on our own relationship. I told her that I expect her to communicate and talk to me and that I wouldn't let her walk all over me. This is going to take some time to figure out what we really want, both for ourselves and each other, and I told her it might end up in divorce, especially if she does something even remotely like this again. She needs to accept that. I say to you, enjoy swinging together, if you are honest and trust each other it will open up to you a new and exhilarating life without jealousy. John and I love each other, and we have built a relationship in which we coexist harmoniously. The unique nature of our relationship and the memories we have created together can never be replicated by or with another person.

Making out progressed to oral then she really wanted to have sex one night. I declined at first (really) but we had sex. Then again, and again. So, even if we end up having different partners in the future, it will never change the love we have for each other. Of course, having the kind of sex most people only get to fantasise about didn’t hurt either. Friday Trust the source. Research the promote or group throwing and the party and make sure they prioritize consent and acceptance.Later, we attended a masturbation workshop, which would be better described as a meditation on self-pleasure.