If your [mother] is emotionally abusive and the only way you can achieve love and acceptance is to live up to [her] standards, then you might sublimate your own needs to make her happy,” says Lis. The book presents compelling case studies as well as self-help techniques for people who are ready to learn how to take control of their lives and be their own heroes. 7. Narcissistic Mothers: How to Handle a Toxic Mother – A Guide for Healing and Recovering After Narcissistic Abuse by Bianca Sutton This book is an excellent guide to how to shed your learned narcissistic tendencies. It encourages you to assess your relationships and gain new insights as to how to identify a narcissist.

First, it can be helpful to educate yourself on NPD and narcissistic behaviors. This can be empowering, free you of blame, and lead you closer to healing. This is another highly effective book from childhood trauma specialist and psychoanalyst, Alice Miller. In this book, she discusses how embracing the truth of those early wounds can set you free from the legacy they created. She draws on cutting edge research into how the brain develops to demonstrate how those early traumas can produce denial and lead to emotional blindness. She also discusses how this cycle can easily repeat itself to create intergenerational trauma. It is only with awareness that we can break this devastating cycle. 13. When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times (Shambhala Classics) by Pema Chodron

Success Is Not a Synonym for Narcissism

I have just finished reading your book ; ' Will I ever be good enough?' I wanted to write and thank you, as it felt as if you were speaking directly to me. I have known for a long time that I have a difficult relationship with my Mum but have never considered it in terms of narcissism. It was very clear when I started reading, that my mum has many narcissistic traits which made it very difficult/impossible for her to empathize or meet my needs. This book is a good place to start, although I did feel that it often reinforced the misconception that managing a narcissistic mother was the responsibility of the daughter in this mother-daughter relationship. It is not. Narcissistic Mothers (and Their Loveless Baggage): 6 Daughters of Toxic Parents Offer Crucial Insight for Your Self-Healing by Abigail Trent, Eileen Huxley, Lizzie Duarth, Tina Ejiofor, Annelise Burlett, and Paisley Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

Our childhood impacts our overall health, especially if we had adverse experiences that went unhealed.

Children Need to Please

As much as it’s difficult for me to post about this book I wanted to share it so others who may need it know they aren’t as alone as they feel and that there are resources out there for them.