Dr. Tamara Rosier: Yeah. You know, it's funny because I'm, I'm always surprised of when I get to Friday night. Like, I don't know why I'm so tired, but I'm exhausted. My husband just looks at me like, are you serious? You can't figure this out. Like you've been going, going, going all week and now your body's like, "Hey, we're done", but each Friday night I'm somewhat surprised at how tired I am. And I think it's kind of funny that I don't really ever figure this out. I mean, I know it enough to write about it. And yet each Friday night, I wonder why I'm so tired. Dr. Tamara Rosier: so you get, you get like how in this is where I work with my clients. This is a form of perfectionism, because we think we're only as good as the next goal. And I, unfortunately, again, I'm confessing a lot to you on this. I hate, I hate this confessing business, but I think it helps your listeners to know. William Curb: Yeah. And it's, it's hard to get out of, but it's, once you start going, oh, I'm not actually comparing anything. Cause that's the problem with comparison. We're not actually comparing anything. You're just going, that's better. I'm going to compare this rotten apple that I found to this perfect apple. Why would anyone want this rotten apples? Like, well, because you just found that on the side of the road and you just decided that was what you had

I enjoyed the book, I thought that for the most part it puts things in a simple, clear way and it's a good introduction to ADHD and some strategies for dealing with the difficulties. I like how it makes it clear that everyone is different, with some examples of the different patterns people can get into and including case examples of clients of hers who experience ADHD in different ways (as well as about herself). The main thing that separated this book from others on ADHD was that the author focused on the ways we use negative emotions (like anxiety, anger, and self-loathing) to motivate ourselves to remember things and complete tasks. Because the ADHD brain has poor short-term memory, people with ADHD tend to use emotional memory to anchor tasks and motivations. This allows us to be successful, but it leads to lifelong unhealthy coping skills that result in high anxiety, burnout, and overwhelm. Before reading this book, I’d never heard anyone make this connection but it really resonated with me - it helps me understand why life feels so much more exhausting for me than for someone without ADHD. I just work differently. And so it's to, you know, I, I was convicted because I'm like, well, I can't reach everyone because I can only see so many clients per week. I really want to write this to people so that they know that their brain isn't broken. So a lot of times it was kind of like, this is sounds very sappy, but it was a letter to the clients I haven't met yet. Try to convince them you brain's not broken. If you or someone you know struggles with ADHD and you want something more than medication can provide, then this book is for you. Medications for ADHD are like glasses for near-sightedness--they help with focus but don't teach people how to read. Treating ADHD with medications alone leave millions still struggling to function with everyday life. Your Brain's Not Broken is the best book I have ever read on teaching people with ADHD (and their family members) how to "read"--how to understand their own brain and develop effective strategies to succeed. As a psychiatrist who has treated thousands of people with ADHD, I believe this book provides a comprehensive toolkit for success. I recommend it!"

William Curb: Yeah. You don't have to take everything personally because often it isn't personal. It's just, this is something I do a lot I've learned to do in while driving is someone cuts me off. It's not because they're a jerk it's because they're having a bad day. I hope they have a better day because that would be nice if we all had better days. And I remember the first time I did that and I was just like, oh, that feels way better. William Curb: just to just, I just force myself to do this. We can just go and do it. We'll be done. And then we can, then we can go to the dandelions and I don't like that.

Dr. Rosier does a masterful job of giving language to the experience of being an adult with ADHD. She uses concrete, relatable examples to explain the difficulties adults with ADHD often experience and then provides practical strategies for successfully navigating these difficulties that can be easily adapted to fit a variety of circumstances. This is an excellent resource for adults with ADHD and for anyone who wants to better understand someone struggling with adult ADHD." This is a very useful book for navigating and understanding emotionality as it pertains to ADHD. In particular, I appreciated the explanation of divergent and convergent thinking. I also really liked the emphasis on the importance of sleep. Overall, this was a very interesting and insightful read. I will be recommending it to my students and integrating it into how I work with the students with ADHD that I coach. William Curb: Yeah. It's amazing. Just how the strength of those emotions too, that you're just like, oh, I thought that I was just going to get a little upset by this, but now I'm like mad for hours.So sure, looking like a grownup way too tough for us, but thinking about incredibly new provocative ideas, we can do that.

PDF / EPUB File Name: Your_Brains_Not_Broken_-_Tamara_Phd_Rosier.pdf, Your_Brains_Not_Broken_-_Tamara_Phd_Rosier.epub William Curb: It's so hard in the, in the moment to deal with that idea to the moment everything feels big, And I think it's interesting because I get what she's talking about. I've had COVID and I know the, I call it narcoleptic tiredness. I could just drop and I it's, it's amazing how fatigued. It's not just fatigue of, oh, I'm just not productive. It's a bone tired fatigue.Dr. Tamara Rosier: Right. That's the red blue pattern that I talk about in the book. I happen to have that pattern myself, like, all right, I'm on today. And the red quadrant is kind of the go, go, go quadrant. And, and then I flopped to blue because I can't sustain that high emotional energy. And so, yeah, I do. I flopped a blue and I'm like I'm tired. The other thing we don't understand is would we gear ourselves up to have a super productive day, super productive? Dr. Tamara Rosier: You know, anytime I have someone show up early at my office, I make a note. I'm like, okay, high anxiety asked them about that because I know they got there because they're so anxious that they'll show up 10 minutes early. Oh. And by the way, like if you keep them waiting five minutes, they're going to be wound tight because that anxiety just keeps building. Dr. Tamara Rosier: Right. Well, especially given how the brain structure works, right? I mean, if we don't have reliable access to our prefrontal cortex, remember that's the part behind your forehead?

William Curb: Yeah, just something to modulate how we're at, where you're at. You can't go beyond this point. In Your Brain's Not Broken, Dr. Tamara Rosier applies her years of coaching others to explain how ADHD affects every aspect of your life so that you can finally understand why you think, feel, and act the way you do. The result? Practical tools that can dramatically improve your personal and professional life. William Curb: Yeah. I can definitely relate. So when you were thinking about this book, who is your kind of target who you're writing it for? This is good. And because I didn't think I'd have done it perfectly enough. Like you, I just wanted to move on.In fact, my whole book was to try to say, look at the emotional dysregulation in the mess that it causes. And so a lot of times one of the arguments is, um, spectrum tic talkers, who will say no, no, no, not reading emotions. That's a spectrum issue. However, when we're talking about ADHD, Not reading emotions could be how we present.