Talk to your partner and see if they like getting stimulated in the nether regions with a sex toy or by hand. Actually, let me rephrase that: No-one wants an irritable chocolate starfish next to them in bed, let alone one sporting an abscess! If penetration isn’t your preferred training method, you can wear a butt plug for an extended period of time to get accustomed to the fullness of penetrative anal sex. She told me about another guy who wined and dined her with an expensive dinner neither one of us could afford and dancing afterward.

On the top of the pack you can just find your address, our address and the customs form (CN22) which includes a brief general description of the goods.Besides porn, the popularity of early-2000s boy bands might have something to do with the "mass exodus of body hair" in gay culture, says Daniel Saynt, founder of sexual wellness club NSFW.

So it turns out that exploring the most private of private parts with your tongue, or getting pleasure from it, isn’t necessarily a gay thing. I have seen some large toys in my lifetime, and as a large toy enthusiast myself, I personally knew when I hit my limit because I immediately yelled, ‘get this thing out of me now! High school was a long-ass time ago, but I distinctly remember that my sex ed course never ever spoke about the bum as a source of sexual pleasure. Any unusual bumps, sores or ulcers around your ass or mouth could also be symptoms of an STI such as HPV (warts) or HSV (herpes), which can spread through rimming. Different positions will give you different access to his erogenous zones, so try them out and see what he likes.Your body will tell you when it wants a bigger toy, Ligon refers to this sensation as a bum’s “size craving. Tipping-in works much better than trying to insert something at a perpendicular 90-degree angle,” Ligon says.

Because the anus isn’t self-lubricating and the tissue is thinner and more sensitive than the rest of your skin, a quality lubricant is important. An anonymous source told me his partners have literally offered to shave his butt for their own enjoyment. Young, attractive, hairless men à la Justin Timberlake and Lance Bass became the ideal—and hairy men dealt with it be excessively shaving, trimming, and grooming. You can use dilation kits, which let you work your way up a series of toys with graduated sizes, or invest in a longer-term device like a prostate massager (linking to my personal fave), a dildo, or a butt plug.The spit and shove you might see in porn only really works in porn (or for anal veterans who’ve been taking it for years). Here’s something I wish I never learned today: some straight men don’t wipe their asses because they think it’s gay.