I feel trapped, I feel lost, I honestly am close to giving up with even trying to quit, it feels impossible. I actually stopped for about 2 months before this but as usual I eventually relapsed again. Sorry, I'm not really even asking anything, I'm just venting. If anyone on here has actually managed to get rid of this disgusting addiction please give me some pointers because after years of trying I'm realising I can't do this alone. People need to understand that while technology provides amazing opportunities, it also provides a thousand different ways to ruin your life. There are addictive pitfalls all around our modern world in all kinds of shapes and forms. Findom, Porn, MMORPGS, Social Media, Mobile Games, Online Shopping and Internet Addiction. To live a fulfilled life, these pitfalls must be detected and avoided. Again, the “many” here is anecdote. But whatever the case actually is data wise, we can clearly see, the outputs of this in Tweets VERY regularly.

I’ll explore individual stories more later in interviews. But for now, I will spend some time exploring how I believe the problems work from a theory perspective. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0149763494000202 https://www.healthline.com/health/dopamine-addiction#pleasure-chemical As I’ve alluded to in other parts of this series, there is also the “good feeling” a submissive might get from “providing” for another. This could be sensation of charity, or, in other cases, the simulation of a gender specific role a submissive man might have been raised to believe in? In other words, the missing feeling in their life of providing for a wife and a family, which they may have well be raised to expect. Fulfilling that can also generate the feeling of completion which can also lead to the release of dopamine and oxytocin. A very similar mechanism that is engaged when having a family and looking after children I would expect, especially for a male submissive. As part of facing that pain they turn to heroin. Whilst it takes the pain away temporarily, or acts as a welcome distraction, the after-effects of taking it are detrimental. You won’t find many cougars in this den. Even if the findom is past her early twenties, she’ll still claim to be a gorgeous young thing while accusing the pay pig of being nothing but a washed-up jerk. Older findoms are the exception, not the rule. This is mainly practiced by young women who connect with their guys through webcams, making it difficult to lie about one’s age.The exchange is about power and control, a push-pull relationship in which the rich or powerful man gives up his power to the woman, who is free to demand whatever she desires. You may think the domme can never have more power than the man is willing to give her, but the big problems come with addiction when the man can no longer control what power he is handing over, compelled to give more and more. The devastation this creates in his life includes:

In fact, online findom is only going to grow in popularity as more and more teenage boys grow up with free and easy access to porn. And not just in your country, but around the world. Developing countries just beginning to get connected by technology will run into the exact same problem. Few people know about the phenomenon of Findom. It’s not completely new, but has been steadily rising over the past few years as we become increasingly involved in the online world.

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Financial Domination (Findom). A form of erotic humiliation in which one person gives control of their finances over to another. As time passes, more and more extreme stimuli is needed to get the same rush as the first hit (Like drugs and gambling). When it comes to Findom, the intensity of the rush is directly proportional to the amount of money being sent.Master(bator)s of the universe are in evidence, yet never in control. Money slaves aren’t found only among working class males, loners, or those with low self-esteem. Many findom fans are wealthy and successful. Though they may hold themselves in high regard, these men are erotically stimulated when a woman tells them how useless and pathetic they are. Have I continued engaging in findom after I noticed it was causing me harm, or even found it even more tempting then? I battled and won my internal war with findom and it was a tough one. If I had to estimate how much I spent, I would say it’s in the high five figure range. I found it was a very weird combination of arousal and shame where I managed to link the two together. The messages these so called dommes are putting out mirrored my own views of myself and how I spoke to and thought of myself. I had my own issues where my mum was emotionally absent and nothing I could do could get her attention so paying money to a “domme” to pay attention or to get attention made sense as I possessed neither the cognition nor the awareness around it. I know for me there is still an arousing factor to it. These “dommes” are more like conmen and thieves. Take away what they are doing and they have worse self esteem than us.

David’s expertise enables him to aid clients in a step-by-step program to overcome findom behaviour. This step-by-step program includes; There is obviously the spike in dopamine that comes from sexual activity and orgasm but there are other chemicals at play in sexual activity such as, nitric oxide and in particular oxytocin – which is another “feel good” chemical, often associated with being in love and lust. Whilst we like to think of ourselves as sophisticated, modern creatures, the brutal reality is actually that human beings are still running the same “firmware” that we used over 200,000 years ago. We are still somewhat hardwired for surviving on the Savannah plains of Africa and unfortunately, many of the deep routed psychological habits we developed for dealing with that life harm us in today’s complicated modern world.Another important fact to remember is that unlike drug and alcohol addiction, experts on sex addiction argue that it's less about abstinence and more about engaging in healthy sexual behaviors. Social media uses this heavily and there is little doubt that its overuse can have detrimental and addictive effects on people. So much so that in 2011 during an interview about the platform, former Facebook vice-president Chamath Palihapitiya said:- It seems addiction has become a kink in its own right within “the community” and it doesn’t take long for you to find the Tweets relating to it. Talk about your issues with fin dom. If a you feel uncomfortable discussing your urges with a partner, find a trustworthy source to share these feelings and potential guilt. Talking is important, because you don't want to be forced to cope with all of those distressing feelings on your own, which can conjure up unhealthy thought patterns.