You may know this position by its other less SFW name —“face sitting”— but Queening in Bondage is when a partner recieves oral stimulation while resting on or above their partner’s mouth. Adding restraint play to this is yet another way to up the sensation and intensity of the scene or sexual encounter, allowing the receiving partner to really own the power of the pose (as pictured here) or offering an equally sexy subversion if you switch places. Workowski KA, Bolan GA; Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Sexually transmitted diseases treatment guidelines, 2015. MMWR Recomm Rep. 2015 Jun 5;64(RR-03):1-137. Available from: https://www.cdc.gov/std/tg2015/tg-2015-print.pdf

American college of obstetricians and gynecologists. Chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. FAQ071. Dec 2016. Available from: https://www.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Chlamydia-Gonorrhea-and-Syphilis Everything for your warm-up applies whether you’re alone or with a partner. But when we add another person to the mix, we must also add an open flow of communication and mutual respect for the receiver’s butthole. CommunicationHaving unprotected anal sex, penis-in-vagina sex, and even oral sex (though rarely) can transmit HIV Your weight can mostly held by your knees and thighs, so don’t get too wound up about “crushing” your partner — just make sure they feel comfortable communicating how much pressure is good from you on top!

For comfort and cleanliness, try to go to the bathroom before you get started. If you can’t though, no stress. Feces are stored in the rectum, not the anal canal. If you don’t feel like you need to go, it means that any poop hasn’t made its way far enough down your colon to matter yet. Shit happens but if you’re healthy and regular, things will be relatively clean. Have a bath or shower We already know that pain means stop. If you notice blood, the same rules apply. It may be an anal fissure, a minor tear in the anal lining that will heal on its own with rest, or the result of hemorrhoid irritation. Slowing down and using more lube next time will help prevent this. But if you find you bleed every time you play, talk to your doctor. Fingering is using fingers to stimulate clitoris and/or putting fingers in the vagina or putting fingers in the anus, to cause sexual senstations. A hand job is using a hand to stimulate the penis. Connect with your breath to expand the pleasure and sexual energy throughout the entire body, lighting up every cell with that life force. You can try staying with smaller, subtle movements or get as vigorous as you like, but either way, use your breath to draw orgasmic energy from your pelvis up the spine and up to your third eye (the spot between your eyebrows) or crown (the top of the head) and beyond. Whatever level you’re at, following these guidelines for training your butt before you slide into any penetration play will make the experience more enjoyable and pain-free. Find a comfortable position

Byers, E. S., & Demmons, S. (1999). Sexual satisfaction and sexual self‐disclosure within dating relationships. Journal of Sex Research, 36(2), 180-189 This is the one time when fumbling in the end zone is actually a good thing. This position is all hands in the best way — between the legs, sliding down the belly, all over the chest, etc. Pull your partner close and enjoy. If you are having sex, you need to be concerned about birth control, and have it arranged before having any penis-in-vagina sex. Another position made for anal newbies, On the Stomach is a great option for deep, gentle penetration. The big plus? The receiving partner gets to relax on their stomach, with some support from a pillow or blanket under their head. The chill position helps both partners get comfortable, which is a surefire way to make anal more comfortable and pleasurable. Send your listener questions to be answered anonymously each episode to [email protected] or [email protected] We welcome any and all questions. Also send us topics you would like to see us cover in an episode and we will do so! We would love to know more about what you want to hear about.

American college of obstetricians and gynecologists. Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID). FAQ077. Mar 2018. Available from: https://www.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Pelvic-Inflammatory-Disease-PID

This position is basically beach sex 101: Just pull your swimsuit to the side and get busy. For this on-your-feet move, find a secluded, wind-protected area, lean up against a sturdy support, and enjoy some intimate time in the sun. Vegetable products: They can also break down your condoms and, if used internally, can increase the chance of irritation and infection. They’ll also stain your sheets. They also answer listener questions on commenting on the hotness of someone else and how to bring up wanting more sex.