A person with a prostate may also enjoy having a butt plug in while they have penetrative sex or during masturbation. Experiencing prostate stimulation during these acts may add to a person’s pleasure. To enlarge the size of the anus

The Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon has blown that wide open. (Just don't use that as a blueprint for your own kinky life because there is a mile-long list of problems in the books and movies that will get you in trouble or even injured--like their use of spreader bars.)

What If I'm Being Shamed?

A person can use butt plugs of varying sizes to help stretch their anus. This can be beneficial for a person who wants to try anal sex. According to sex and relationship expert Jessica O'Reilly, the key to anal play is relaxation. As she writes in The New Sex Bible: The New Guide to Sexual Love, there are two muscle rings known as the sphincter around the entrance to the anus. You want to be gentle with them when inserting anything into your butt. "Relax, breathe deeply, and bear down slightly with your sphincter muscles as you insert [a toy] for the first time," writes O'Reilly. The prostate is a gland that lies in front of the rectum. Some people who have prostates find it very pleasurable to experience prostate stimulation through their rectum.

If you have a vagina, the butt plug is also a wonderful way to experience double penetration: Slide one in after applying lube and wear it during vaginal sex with a penis or dildo. You can also simultaneously stimulate your clit with fingers or a vibrator. Many people love receiving oral while they have a butt plug in. That said, you don't need a partner to enjoy butt plugs — they make for excellent masturbation companions. In fact, solo sex is a lovely way to explore anal play. The bottom line is that anal pleasure through butt plugs is something anyone can enjoy. What should I know about lube? If it helps, unfortunately, people are going to get shamed by someone for whatever way they're choosing to get down. It's not just people on the fringes who get judged. That is the general rule. There are people who are into sex stuff that you may find weird, strange, or even repulsive. First, let me say that I have long been a fan of off-the-wall humor. The more off-the-wall, the better! Based on the funny title of this book, and the fact that the author has a large cult following, I was expecting a thrilling ride on the bizarro roller coaster. But regretfully I found this book to be neither humorous nor thrilling. So there's this section of Powells in Portland that I always feel calling to me from across the continent. It's one set of shelves, all small press, and a lot of it pretty weird. There's the zine-y stuff like 'On Subbing' or the beautiful weirdness of Trinie Dalton. And there's also a big gob of Bizarro.And that's not cool. Everyone is into different stuff and that's fine and healthy. I don't like white chocolate but it would be silly to call people who do like white chocolate nasty names, right? How Do I Not Kink Shame? Next, start with something smaller than a plug: Lube up your finger, or ask your partner if you can borrow theirs. Circle the anus with the finger, glide it gently in and out of the anus, then add another finger. It’s odd, but it’s made fairly well. Your little squirrel buddy is made of body-safe silicone and has a magnetic induction charger so the entire toy is sealed and waterproof, meaning it’s safe to use in the bathtub. For example, I have a phobia of balloons. (It's a little odd but true.) At the same time, I know there are full communities of people who have a balloon fetish. While that sounds like a nightmare to me, I also think it's pretty neat that as humans we have such a range of interactions with simple objects like a balloon.