At these times, it is important to get help from a therapist, find the cause, heal yourself, and regain your hope and energy. Xuyên suốt cuốn sách tập trung nói nhiều về bộ ba trạng thái cái tôi, tầm quan trọng của cảm xúc, sự ảnh hưởng của những năm tháng đầu đời lên cuộc sống hiện tại và sơ đồ vị thế sống.

When he goes to a party, regardless of his current mood, he immediately adopts a polite social mode, and his opening line is always the same: “Hello, friends, you'll never guess what I've been up to,” or “Come, my friend, look at this. Drawing on the figure of Toad, who is a rather pompous yet affectionate character who has fallen into depression, de Board takes us on a journey through the theory of Eric Berne’s classical transactional analysis.Never Eat Alone’was published in 2005 and has been a top seller ever since it became known to the public. The attention and care we get from our friends can also make us feel comforted in those dark moments. He has lost so much weight that his plus-fours, which had once fit him well, look like two potato sacks covering his thin, shriveled legs. Readers will learn about the counselling process and themselves as they join Toad on his journey from psychological distress to psychological growth and development. I like the personal growth of the Toad throughout the book - not much to take reference for but it's a fresh perspective to look at therapy (for me).

enjoyed the discussion about how we are going to project our negative feelings to others under the Critical parent state. Tạm dịch: Không phải lúc nào bạn cũng nhận được câu trả lời hay lời xin lỗi cho những gì đã tổn thương bạn.This book not only introduces general methods for reading, giving specific techniques for different types of books, but also discusses the essence and meaning of reading. Badger is one of Toad’s friends, or rather a friend of Toad’s father, who is harsh on Toad whenever he makes mistakes.

By using the fictional toad Robert de Board enables the reader to maintain some distance from personal insights that may emerge and reflect safely on them. As a trustee of the Toad Hall Housing Trust, Toad has connections in public affairs and social relations, and his daily activities are rich and varied. I also found the counselling methods he had to be interesting to read about and his character definitely reflected that of a counsellor. Ngài Cóc bị trầm cảm và toàn bộ quyển sách là những buổi tham vấn với bác sĩ tâm lý để tìm hiểu những tổn thương từ quá khứ. When we understand which life position we chose and the three ego states, we can shake the hand of our past self, rework our own life script, and live a self-led life.A must-read for anyone approaching counselling for the first time, whether as a student or as a client, or for the professional counsellor looking for something to recommend to the hesitant. His good friends do not understand that people with depression can lack motivation and physical strength; and even eating can be difficult. Bên cạnh tạo ra không gian an toàn để Cóc có thể thoải mái giải bày thì việc bác thường xuyên giải thích về thuật ngữ tâm lý một cách gần gũi (psychoeducational) cũng khiến Cóc và người đọc có thể theo được những tiến trình tâm lý phức tạp. A curious concoction , a mashup of The Wind n the Willows characters with counselling lore- “games people play” and so on. It's as if we find a script early in life and constantly push ourselves and those around us, consciously or subconsciously, to act out that script.

The difference between psychological counselling and friendly advice mainly lies in the professional nature of therapy. These are the effects of Toad's family environment, and they are the source of his current depression. Những khái niệm như bản năng (id), siêu tôi (super ego), cái tôi (ego) được bác Diệc hình tượng hoá rất đơn giản và dễ hiểu.The book shows that people’s various behaviors are out of the three ego states: parents, child, and adult. The key character in this book is the counsellor, Heron, who mainly uses the Transactional Analysis method in counselling.