Her girlfriend Jess, who is more androgynously dressed in jeans, a button-up shirt and vest, tells me that she feels out of place – but not as much as she expected. Everyone’s pretty hot and friendly. Courtney agrees. She’d expected to feel unwelcome, but doesn’t. In some ways, she tells me, Skirt Club feels more comfortable than queer parties she’s been to. By 10:30, the party is winding down.Before I leave, a woman named Sonja tells me the story of her first same-sex experience with a female friend. They both identified as straight at the time, so the first time they made out with each each other, they figured, “This isn’t gay.” Then they had sex. “But we said, ‘We’re not gay!’ And we kept doing it and saying, ‘We’re still not gay!’ Then one day we realized – we were totally gay,” she says.

I got a lot of young women in their 20s asking me how they could run a blog,” she says. “What I really noticed about Skirt Club at the beginning was that rather than just being hedonistic, it was a great social opportunity to meet liberal, like-minded women. And it’s typical to how women express sexuality. It’s not just nudity and sex.” For queer womxn, non-binary and trans people of colour, this monthly event loves its themed nights – from the tastefully named ‘Game of Hoes’ to the Wild West-inspired ‘Yeehaw’. It’s a welcoming, no-pressure environment, including a free taxi service for trans people of colour. It felt like it does when girls make out with each other at clubs to garner attention from surrounding men, except there were no men to show off for,” she says. “So what are these women here for? Do they actually want to find a woman to go home with or is it just the excitement of possibility?” LeJeune refers to the volunteers as “hostesses” and they play the part in exchange for free entry, helping to break the ice and encouraging attendees to participate in the night’s flirtatious games.

I ask Moon what she thinks of the party. The Skirt Club events, she says, are providing femme, bi curious women their own space to experiment. “It’s a safe place to explore without it having to ‘mean’ anything about their identity,” she says. “I don’t think the parties are gay, per se. Just as I don’t think fooling around with someone of the same sex is necessarily gay. The words we have to describe sexuality are too frail to contain the dynamism of the human experience.”

In the swinging scene, unicorns are solo females who go to sex parties and swingers’ clubs on their own. They arrive alone, they leave alone and just like their mythical counterparts, their scarcity makes them highly sought after. Mentioned in this episode: Piano player https://ambercolesings.com ; Burlesque https://thelalas.com; Sex toys https://www.casualtoys.com - use coupon code FSU for 15% off! But LeJeune says that not everyone is there to indulge the occasional fantasy – some women have experienced trajectory changes in their lovelife after attending Skirt Club parties.

A new weekly night from DJ Kasey Riot, one of She Soho’s most popular DJs. Every Tuesday, head to Klub – in Soho bar Ku’s basement – for gender-bending expression. Replacing the long-running Ruby Tuesdays, it’s all about leather, kink, crisp shirts and dapper looks.