But in reality, this will take some serious self-reflection on your part and, most probably, help from a certified mental health professional.

Badri S, Kong M, Yunus W, Nordin NA, Yap W. Trait emotional intelligence and happiness of young adults: The mediating role of perfectionism. Int J Environ Res Public Health. 2021;18(20):10800. doi:10.3390/ijerph182010800 Greenspon TS. Is there an antidote to perfectionism? Psychol Schools. 2014;51(9):986-998. doi:10.1002/pits.21797 Take a look at the online therapy service from BetterHelp.com – you’ll be able to talk to a trained and experienced therapist from the comfort of your own home at a time that suits you. Here’s that link again if you’d like more information on this process.

14. You’re going through a hard time.

In many ways, poorer health outcomes for perfectionists aren’t that surprising. “Perfectionists are pretty much awash with stress. Even when it’s not stressful, they’ll typically find a way to make it stressful,” says Gordon Flett, who has studied perfectionism for more than 30 years and whose assessment scale developed with Paul Hewitt is considered a gold standard

Damian LE, Stoeber J, Negru O, Băban A. On the development of perfectionism in adolescence: Perceived parental expectations predict longitudinal increases in socially prescribed perfectionism. Pers Individ Diff. 2013;55(6):688-693. doi:10.1016/j.paid.2013.05.021 After their visit to his offshore clinic on an expensive ship in International waters, Naomi conceived, everything seems to be going accordingly for the couple until when the husband allowed himself to be beautifully seduced by a journalist who charmed him into letting out the cat from the bag by telling her him and his wife were expecting a "designer baby" courtesy of Dr. Dettore. All hell broke loose after that as a series of events that occurred not only put their lives in danger but also unstable. The description of the science behind the designer babies is reasonably wooly, in her diary Naomi Klaeesson writes: 'disease genes will be removed or disabled by altering their cytokines and others will be programmed to self-destruct'. This vagueness is to be expected, as much of it is hypothetical. However the process of testing and selecting embryos is accurately described.

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A professional can also provide some tools that you can use to challenge some of the reasons listed above. There are deliberate echoes of Aldous Huxley's 'Brave New World' as Dr Dettore prophesies a genetic underclass made up of those who were not designed. Perfection is such a nuisance that I often regret having cured myself of using tobacco. ― Émile Zola “Nobody is Perfect” Quotes The story follows John and Naomi, a young couple who comprise of a Swede and a Brit who have married, had a child and then lost that child. They are both carriers of a rare gene which gives a horrible and tragic illness to their first son, so they grieve his loss deeply when it comes. In the end, they decide they want more children, but they don't want to have to watch them suffer too so they seek out the help of a geneticist who is working on cutting edge gene-alterations and 'designer babies' to see if he can eradicate the gene for the illness from their next child. Little do the couple know, this scientist may well have his own aims... Esame rūšis žmonių, kuri tikisi aplenkti šviesą ir daryti daug kitų dalykų, kurių mūsų protėviai negalėjo nė įsivaizduoti, bet neišmokome, kaip įveikti neapykantą savo širdyse, mes esame rūšis, kurios atstovai savo problemas sprendžia tik mėtydamiesi akmenimis.

Mental health problems aren’t just caused by perfectionism; some of these problems can lead to perfectionism, too. One recent study, for example, found that over a one-year period, college students who had social anxiety were more likely to become perfectionists – but not vice versa. I don’t think perfect is interesting. I think what makes life exciting is the imperfections. ― Mary Frann That, of course, hinders them from the very success that they want to achieve. In his 60-plus studies focusing on athletes, for example, Hill has found that the single biggest predictor of success in sports is simply practice. But if practice isn’t going well, perfectionists might stop. Dr Klaesson's research career is one of the pivotal plot breakers of the book; many of the major storylines are a direct result of his passion for science and search for funding. This is counterbalanced by Dr Dettore, who is the stereotypical mad boffin scientist out to rule the world. Vaikystėje mums aiškina, kad mūsų tėvai yra teisūs, kad privalome mokytis iš jų, o vėliau perduodame šiuos niekus savo vaikams. Pasaulis jau nebe toks, koks buvo anksčiau. Nė vienas nežino, kas mūsų laukia ateityje. Galbūt išprotėtume, jei žinotume. Nuo to mes gelbstimės svajodami. O svajones mes saugome savo širdyse".As a parent I could fully empathise with John and Naomi. To lose a child has got to be one of the worst things in life possible. So to get the chance to have another baby that can be guaranteed to have none of the illnesses that can be passed on in the genes from the parents, well who wouldn't take it? Perfectionism is the enemy of creation, as extreme self-solitude is the enemy of well-being. ― John Updike One of the most thought-provoking thrillers I've read. Scary too, not so much in the blood and gore sense, but the in the implications of genetic engineering of the human species to a level far beyond what eugenics in the conventional sense might ever achieve. When the book was first started, designer babies were still a subject for science fiction, but judging by scientific advances made over the past 10 years this fiction could so easily become fact. There is no reason to believe that violent conflict between science and fanatical religious beliefs will be any a less of a threat in the future as it has been in the past. If there was nothing wrong in the world there wouldn’t be anything for us to do. ― George Bernard Shaw They say that nobody is perfect. Then they tell you practice makes perfect. I wish they’d make up their minds. ― Wilt Chamberlain