I know to sort through that sentence and understand the instruction, which is she needs another drink and wants it now. There was a lot of fluff in there, but the instruction is clear. The desired outcome is to have a healthy relationship where you both feel safe, happy, and cared for. By following rules that are set by the Dom, the submissive can relax and trust that they are taken care of. When the submissive complies with the rules, the Dominant feels proud that he is able to have been given the gift of submission. The Dominant then feels accepted, desired, and confident like the Master they are. Power Play A nice tongue bath on my feet is perfect after a long hot day.” Her feet were extra smelly today due to the heat. Or maybe among good friends at dinner, that same gentle femdom wife, puts a bit of food on her fork and politely asks her husband what he thinks of it. Only they know that he will do it, and will not refuse. Again a polite request, which is no request at all.

As soon as she says that, I understand that I need to start focusing more on her calluses, so I move my tongue over to her callused heel but it does not do much.Oh yeah, from now on, this is how you pamper my feet slave. And the same will go for Lauren, she is going to love this.” Even amongst friends, a look and a “could you get me another drink” is taken as the instruction it is. Punishments ensue for not doing what is requested. And was there more? Didn’t you lie and say you had not been deliberately giving me the silent treatment?”

Right now, she is sitting on the couch and I am on my knees sideways of her, close to her couch with my head bowed, forehead touching the ground and my elbows on the floor serving as her human footrest while she watches TV. I have been in this position for over two hours, and I can tell because of how many TV shows she has watched. Touching Restrictions- The submissive is not allowed to touch or be touched by the Dominant. If the submissive shows their affection through touch, this can be especially difficult. Sit down with your partner and see what they want to explore. I suggest you are both aware of the ideas going forward so that you can communicate how you feel about them as they happen. Talking will require you to be open about sex and your secret desires that you may not have talked about in the past.

There are many places where the public knowledge of such an arrangement might be detrimental, either professionally speaking or from within one’s own personal life. I am talking to you at the moment, and you better hear me loud and clear: you are now grounded for Saturday AND Sunday, young man. You’d better cut your losses and start showing me some respect, or it will be two weekends.” Now that I've got all that scary stuff taken care of, let's talk about a couple of happy people that want to explore a bit of kink in the bedroom or even change their relationship into a D/s one. Permission to speak– Slightly different, in that it specifies permission to speak, but the sub is to avoid controversial topics. Women in these relationships take power fully, and while the man is at home, he does what she says.

List the 10 things that you WOULD LIKE TO INCORPORATE to your female-led relationship with your husband. And denying my motives . . . Ma’am. Yes, Ma’am, I confess that I did that, too. And I am truly sorry, for all of it.”In fact more men in ever increasing numbers are turning to bossy women so they may have a happy and real relationship. Lines- Think like the bad students writing “I will not chew gum” on the board over and over again. Same concept. Both of the writing punishments are effective because they require internal thought combined with a physical action. There is something cathartic that happens when you commit an idea or thought to paper. It helps commit the idea to memory. If I broke a rule and knew that I disappointed my Dominant, I would need to have a discussion about what happened, why I shouldn’t break the rule, why the punishment happened, and that I am still loved and cared for. I made a bad choice, I am not a bad girl. While it looks different than post-playtime aftercare, that bit of reassurance and reconnection allows me to have time to improve and remember he is still there for me. Rewards As I am massaging her feet I observe the work I had done a few days earlier on her nails. She had me give her pedicures very often and tonight, her nails are unpainted but perfectly pedicured. I still can’t get used to the potent cheesy smell after all this time but I have to make sure I don’t show it because she did not like it when I complained. She always required me to do my chores with a smile on my face.

mmm… well, I spank his bottom until I feel better…. absolutely serious….yeah I’ll tell you all about it tomorrow over lunch. I still have a hard time with other people “knowing” what goes on, but I trust my wife, and realize that she is empowered to decide how our house is run. But now how am I going to face Elaine at the next office party? Spanking. Orgasm Denial. Silent treatment. All are forms of punishment that a Dominant can use to punish their submissive. Some people like the idea of punishments. In fact, that may be their biggest attraction to the BDSM way of life. But it’s not the main draw.As I massage her right foot with my hand, she puts her left foot on the floor and I begin to slither my tongue all over it. Your only focus is to please us, your pleasure doesn’t count. I am your mother-in-law and the matriarch of this household. Under our roof you are nothing but a servant and a sex toy, that is what a good husband is for.” Normally it means to think of an excuse and say we can’t make it. This allows your mistress to retain the high ground. I’m sorry madam.” I dare not complain about how much pain I am in, because I know that she will just make it worse. Thankfully after about another hour she wants me to take care of her “tired” feet.