Gilbert, P. (2005b). Social Mentalities: A biopsychosocial and evolutionary reflection on social relationships. In, M.W. Baldwin (ed). Interpersonal Cognition. (p.299-335). New York: Guilford. If you want one recipe to make you unhappy, it would be to focus on the things you criticize or don’t like about yourself.” Gilbert, P., Allan, S. & Goss, K. (1996). Parental representations, shame interpersonal problems and vulnerability to psychopathology. Clinical Psychology and Psychotherapy, 3, 23-34.

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I didn't feel compelled to do the exercises, aside from reading them and mulling them over. I have also bought the workbook as I thought it would be an easier format for doing exercises. So that will be another review! Please list any fees and grants from, employment by, consultancy for, shared ownership in or any close relationship with, at any time over the preceding 36 months, any organisation whose interests may be affected by the publication of the response. Please also list any non-financial associations or interests (personal, professional, political, institutional, religious or other) that a reasonable reader would want to know about in relation to the submitted work. This pertains to all the authors of the piece, their spouses or partners.For the casual reader it is much too long and detailed and I think, that no matter what category of reader you are it is painfully repetitive. It was not an enjoyable book to listen too and now that I have finished it I cannot think of any particular new of exciting insights I gained from it. This book explains our brains have 3 systems for survival. Self protection and threat (fears) , Incentives and resources (pleasures) and being content. We need to keep fears and pleasures balanced to feel content.

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That for me is a key to compassion – recognizing that we have not been designed, that we all just find ourselves here, not because we (or some other power) chose for us to be here.” Gilbert, P. (1984). Depression: From Psychology to Brain State. London: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates This book explains that we have two ways of thinking. The 'old belief system' and the 'new belief system'. The old is from our ancestors in the cave days and how we react to pain and pleasure. It's so interesting to read how our minds have evolved and how some ways we react stem from thousands of years ago. develop different abilities (and vice versa). For example, with more compassionate attention and thinking, we might increase our feelings and motivations to be caring; or practising compassionate attention and thinking might increase our empathy and reduce our condemning tendencies.”Gilbert, P & Leahy, R (in press). The Therapeutic Relationship in the Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapies. London: Routledge. We can also become more aware of how our societies may be stimulating the selfish ‘me first’ part of ourselves with unrealistic fantasies and desires and setting us up to want more and more and, at the same time, to feel more disappointed and personal failures” Lai kā ar stāstiem un fantāzijām gribētos radīt sev pasauli, kurā zinām, kāpēc esam te, zinām jēgu, mērķi, Paul Gilbert piedāvā, ka tā nav bijusi neviena mūsu izvēle te būt, ka tā nav bijusi neviena mūsu izvēle būt tieši tādiem, kādi esam. Tā nav nedz mūsu vaina, nedz nopelns. Tomēr tā ir mūsu izvēle un iespēja paņemt atbildību un piedzīvot labāko iespējamo sevi, nodzīvot labāko iespējamo dzīvi.

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Gilbert, P. (1997). The evolution of social attractiveness and its role in shame, humiliation, guilt and therapy. British Journal of Medical Psychology, 70, 113-147. Our sense of disconnectedness is the price we pay for having a brain that gives rise to a sense of our being an individual self.” I have been thoroughly engaged throughout, and like the scientific and spiritual aspects to his presentation of facts and assertions. His work is both enlightening and, as I've already mentioned, refreshing, so makes for easy reading whatever your personal, political, professional, spiritual or religious leaning. Gilbert, P. (1998). What is shame? Some core issues and controversies. In, P. Gilbert & B. Andrews, (eds) Shame: Interpersonal Behavior, Psychopathology and Culture. (pp 3–36). New York: Oxford University Press. Gilbert, P. (2005a) Compassion and cruelty: A biopsychosocial approach. In, P Gilbert (ed). Compassion: Conceptualisations, Research and Use in Psychotherapy (9-74). London: Routledge.

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It has some good facts and interesting theories but it is the most repetitive book I have ever read or listened to. If anyone wants to borrow this I'm happy to give you it 😊 it's a book I'd definitely recommend to give more understanding of how the mind works and how to be more compassionate to yourself Gilbert, P. (2000). Social mentalities: Internal ‘social’ conflicts and the role of inner warmth and compassion in cognitive therapy. In, P. Gilbert & Bailey K.G (eds.) Genes on the Couch: Explorations in Evolutionary Psychotherapy (p.118-150). Hove: Brenner-Routledge.