Wow," Amanda exclaimed. "We should have been more honest with each other a long time ago! I want to be tied up next. I guess you'll have to do it, Erin. Marie is incapacitated right now." Handcuffs are another common restraint tool, and they tend to be quite user-friendly. While ropes are highly versatile, you don't have worry about your tying skills with handcuffs, and since you can also use cuffs to ensure the submissive partner is unable to touch themselves, they're handy for experimenting with orgasm denial. Start with some comfy Velcro cuffs, or if you want a realistic-looking pair, try these metal handcuffs from the Fifty Shades of Grey line on for size. 7. Play dress-up.

Erin did as she was told, and soon found her feet being forced into one of the legs of Marie's tights. With a little effort, Marie pulled the it up and up over her sister's legs, over her knees, and even higher.A 2019 systematic scoping review suggests that it allows people to assert dominance by giving them total control and power over the situation. Similarly, a 2020 study notes that many practitioners find the giving, taking, and exchanging of power to be sexually arousing. Marie began binding the duct tape around Erin's wrists. Erin again sighed in pleasure as her already imprisoned arms became hopelessly bound together. Marie didn't stop at the wrists. She continued to wrap the tape around Erin's nylon-covered arms in overlapping but gradually higher wrappings until Erin's arms were crushed together by a solid mass of duct tape from wrists to elbows. Too tight, Pam? I hope not." I tried hard to play the part of the girl who did NOT want to be tied up, so I squirmed and "mmmphhheddd" into the scarves like a good damsel should. Bed bondage removes some of this risk because you're using cuffs instead of rope and rope along with scarves, ties, or other things that were never meant to be used for bondage have a nasty reputation of skin burns, injuries, and cutting off circulation. Additionally, using restraints may produce a feeling of sensory deprivation. This may help to not only increase a person’s excitement, but enhance the sensation of the remaining senses, which can heighten pleasure. Builds deeper connections

Those are the three most important rules in D/s: safe, sane, and consensual. While there is an inherent risk in anything, it's the responsibility of everyone involved that those risks are minimized and that communication is open so everyone is consenting actively along the way. A 2019 review states that BDSM can offer a safe space for people healing from trauma, PTSD, and abuse. Moreover, therapists may use practices such as bondage as a tool to help couples working on power dynamics. This may help couples experience relinquishing and assuming control in the bedroom before they do in other parts of their relationship. Improves sexual and mental health While it might not be as sleek as some others, I like that they place the adjustment belts right by the end of the strap by the cuffs because it makes it easy to adjust the tension after your sub is all strapped in. (And there’s nothing nicer than tightening the restraints just a bit after they’ve gotten settled.)You can also incorporate the stoplight system (red, yellow and green) to let your partner know what’s good, what you may want to pause and talk about or slow down with and what’s a no-no. This is a great way for feeling out boundaries and comfort levels and keeping communication going.