Choose a safe word: it's important to establish a safe word so you can swiftly end any scenario you're not comfortable with if things get too much – and don’t be afraid to use it. As with all sex, kink should be completely consensual so if one or both of you isn’t enjoying the experience, use that safe word and stop immediately. Self-bondage is dangerous, even potentially deadly. No form of bondage is ever without risk. Self-suspension is an aerial activity with many inherent dangers. Never self-tie alone or without appropriate in-person instruction. By choosing to engage in self-bondage, you take responsibility for your own well-being. Upon viewing these videos, you agree to hold harmless all persons and organizations involved in their creation. Simple single-column tie Research first: before trying out any kink, do plenty of research to make sure it’s really for you – especially for kinks sitting at the more extreme end of the scale. The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance is a good place to start. Whatever the reason, Barbara Carrella, a certified sexologist and author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century, says a DIY sex toy (which she calls a pervertible) is never far: “Pervertibles are every day, non-erotic items that can be easily converted into sex toys. They can be found absolutely everywhere, and once you start finding them, it’s hard to stop seeing the erotic potential in all sorts of everyday items.” Everyone has different limits and boundaries, and it’s important to respect that. Follow our 6 tips to make sure kinky sex is a safe, positive experience for everyone involved:

Do you love to be the centre of attention and get turned on by the concept of being seen? Exhibitionism is a sexual kink in which the person feels sexual arousal at the idea (or in some cases reality) of being seen engaged in sexual activities by others, and it can be seriously fun to play. Either at home with your lover or via webcam with the world, exhibitionists and kink go hand in hand and this stage was made for you. 13. Try your hand at voyeurism Group sex is the epitome of kink and most of us have fantasised about inviting additional people into the bedroom for a threesome or an orgy. However, with relationship hang-ups and safety measures to consider, group sex with friends does not always translate that well into real life. The easiest way to dip your toe in the multiples pond is to invite a stranger to join you (easily done via most dating apps now) or attend a sex party to see how it feels first. We hear Killing Kittens is a great place to start. 6. SwingingBelow I am going to show one way of doing this, adding layer after layer of easy bondage techniques that many people can self-tie. Every layer works independently, so every layer is optional. If a given layer doesn’t appeal to you, don’t do it! Make your gift your own 😉 When finished, have something soft nearby, like a bed, that you can flop on, so you can be a little bit comfortable. And remember the "out." Be sure it's close by, just in case you need it. The term fetish is often used interchangeably with kink to refer to any sexual activity that falls outside the mainstream appetite. But fetish is actually a subset of kinky sex, and technically refers to the fixation of an inanimate object that’s not typically sexual such as body parts - notably feet! Keen to give kink a try? The key to exploring your kinky side starts with open, honest communication and fun! So sit down and talk about what turns you on with your other half before you get started. Discussing your sexual desires with a trusted partner can also serve as foreplay and be seriously steamy. So talk about it, plan what you hope to explore together and enjoy the ride! As long as you're all consenting adults, anything goes and the world is your rubber lobster: 1. Sensory deprivation

Glad it worked out for you. If you get sweaty, turn on a fan or an air conditioner. Also, wear thinner clothing, like light cotton pants, or even pajamas, instead of heavy denim jeans. Also, use a longer strip of tape for your hands. But know how much you need. If 5-8 feet allows you to escape in 5-10 minutes, then try it with 8-12 feet, or even 10-15 feet. Build up slowly: sometimes kinky sex involves mixing pain and pleasure, so it’s important to start slow. ‘I often recommend building up to a fantasy or a fetish if you’re doing it for the first time,’ says Bloom. ‘Take baby steps and see what you do and don’t like.’ Handcuffs are another common restraint tool, and they tend to be quite user-friendly. While ropes are highly versatile, you don't have worry about your tying skills with handcuffs, and since you can also use cuffs to ensure the submissive partner is unable to touch themselves, they're handy for experimenting with orgasm denial. Start with some comfy Velcro cuffs, or if you want a realistic-looking pair, try these metal handcuffs from the Fifty Shades of Grey line on for size. 7. Play dress-up.Impact play involving spanking, flogging, whipping or paddling is a great entry point for BDSM play and features highly on the kink hot list. If you've never enjoyed a good spanking you'll be reassured to hear that if you target the fleshy bits, it doesn't have to hurt and the vibrations can elicit a tantalising range of physical and emotional responses to boot. Bend over baby. Fetishists tend to require the object of their attraction at hand to become sexually aroused. 'Kinky sex involves something that you enjoy adding to your experiences, as opposed to a fetish, which suggests you are dependent on that idea/experience for your sexual arousal and enjoyment and cannot experience sexual satisfaction without it,' says Sheppard. Sex with strangers can be seriously kinky but also comes with its fair share of risks so proceed with caution. Most dating apps come with casual hook up functionality these days, but if this doesn't appeal you can create the idea of stranger sex without putting yourself at risk. Sign up to a webcam, join Chatroulette to indulge in virtual sex with people you don't know or simply use your imagination. 10. Experiment with sex toys

Even in a post- Fifty Shades world, there's no shame in being new to BDSM. And while investing in kink gear and sex toys can be fun, this kind of play is ultimately about you, your partner or partners, and consensual power exchange, not capitalism. "BDSM doesn’t require any money," kink-friendly sex therapist Michael Aaron tells Allure. "Much of it is psychological, and if you are looking for impact play, many people feel like no toy beats their hands anyway, and that’s free. Likewise, various household items such as rope and clothespins can be used in scenes, and they hardly cost anything at all." (A "scene" is how people commonly refer to a period in which the kinky play goes down.) From safely restraining your partner to experimenting with role-play, here are eight ways you can explore BDSM with your partner tonight. 1. Talk through your interests and boundaries. We spoke to Bodyworker and Sex & Intimacy Coach Libby Sheppard, gynaecologist and co-founder of Hanx Sarah Welsh, and sex and dating expert at The Stag Company Clarissa Bloom, about the pros and cons of exploring kinky sex, plus we share 26 expert tips for beginners on how to enjoy a positive, safe and sexy kink experience: What is kinky sex?

Get a roll of duct tape. Peel off 8-10 feet, and tape your ankles. Then, your choice. You can, if you so desire, add additional tape above and below your knees.